What do you do with a person who chooses to be upset with you the majority of the time and sometimes for no particular reason ?

And even whenever they wrong you, they don't apologise for it.. they just give you the silent treatment couple days after then after acts like everything is normal and okay and expects you to forgive and forget ?

freeb · 61-69, M

Tell them how you feel, they might not be aware of it if it's your bf or gf, or if they're family, like siblings or mom and dad - when you tell them, they might realize they've been acting wrongly and change.

If they ARE aware of what they're doing, don't let them live in your head. It's been my experience that some family members are just assholes, and act exactly like you posted, but I don't let them live in my head, don't care what they think. Put 'em out of your mind, and live and let live for your own spiritual health.

Bottom line is family and loved ones know how to hurt us the hardest, they know our weaknesses. Sometimes they don't know they're hurting us, sometimes they do. Good question Starz 💙 good luck girl, find the harmony within yourself and make it stronger, and that can act as a buffer to those who would harm you emotionally---you'll be in a higher plane of existence they can't touch

rckt148 · 61-69, M

@Starz93 I would say ask my family how I deal with people who keep hurting me like it means noting ,,but you can't you don't know them .but
My Granddaughter 19 disrespected me for the 3rd time at a family event .
I left ,and left my guitar where it was sitting ,so everyone knew for me to do that I was hurt and mad .
By the next weekend she and her Mom both asked me to forgive them
(at the time my Daughter did not know what she had done and upheld her in it )
Once my Daughter heard the whole story ,not just my Granddaughters side
They both come to ask my forgiveness ,,my Grandson has stormed out of my home saying he was done with me .
He never makes it home before he comes back saying he is sorry .
My Ex has called a million times in the last 6 years just to hear my voice ,
but all she hears is hello ,its your dime
I told her until she comes and faces me ,I have noting else to say to her
Its been 6 yrs ,I keep my word
and I love her and miss her very much ,but it proves a point my family understands ,,,
Don't toy with my feelings for you
I can hurt alone just as easy as I can keep forgiving you
it sucks either way ,,but at least that is one I wont have to keep forgiving
She knows what I want ,if her pride is more important than me
see if her pride loves her as much as I do ,,but I do not do ultimatums
and if its just put up with it or lose you ,,
I'll one day get over the loss
its not easy ,but its better then someone who continues to hurt me but say they love me .
Love to me is an action word ,not just lip service ,,show me ,don't tell me

KayraJordyn · F

Distance yourself as safely as possible. Sounds like someone I knew who, when her brain tumor was found and removed, started acting normal again. If it's family, I'm sorry.