do you let people control your emotions

It used to happen, until I read a book, and I don't recall the name of the book or the author, but he said that, if someone's bad mood rubs off on you and you allow it to change your mood, the person who wrecked your day has won. What's more, they neither know, nor do they care, that they have done so.

Now, if someone is rude or miserable, I allow myself the time to think mean thoughts in their direction, then I look for something I can do, to make someone else feel better about their day. It makes me feel better, and hopefully it gives someone else a bit of a lift.

No. If I did, I could not get through my work day. I work with adults with mental illness.

I've worked hard on not letting people do this

I've got some nasty road rage. I think that counts as a yes.

serenitree you remind me of someone, i agree with what you say.

martinthefirst i disagree.

martinthefirst, actually no i dont tell myself im making myself angry i have been diagnosed for years now. its not me making myself angry its my body. and i do believe that people can only make you feel a certain way if you let them.

martinthefirst actually no, i have bipolar and sometimes i just feel things for no other reason than chemical imbalance.

Rageandhate, thank you. I hope I remind you of someone you like.

serenitree yeah definitely someone i like she was a great person.

no

Telling yourself that you're the one who made yourself angry or made yourself hate, does not change the fact that people are often the reason for why you make yourself angry or hate.

If you ever feel rage or hate, that's most often because someone has controlled your emotions with their actions.

Its not something that you let people do, they do it anyways.