The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. Do you agree or not?

@RubySoo ok...maybe not the opposite of love....put the point you need to get to when love ends....especially after a difficult relationship. X

@RubySoo Yes, I'd agree with that.

@Zoranna it's not easy. I've only really had to do this once in my live.....it took me years. I'd say I'm there now. I can talk about the good times and bad and stay calm and see things for what they were. I haven't seen the said person since tho. I guess the true test would be seeing him and managing to look him in the face ....and carry on walking by. I'd like to be able to do that.

@RubySoo It does take time to get to that stage, it did me too ... years. I hope you can. 🤗

@Zoranna I'm there. But yeah...I'd like the chance to face him out and show him I no longer give two hoots. One day x

@RubySoo there's nothing indifferent about that. You're describing a mild dose of revenge, which one has to feel something to want revenge. If it's not love that you're feeling, it must be hate.

Not at all. No revenge....believe me had I wanted revenge I had plenty to go on....and a lot of people could have got very very hurt.
For my peace of mind I had to let go. I no longer love the person.....but really truly didn't want to wear myself out hating. Maybe I could actually see him in the street, smile and say hi instead of saying nothing. But I wouldn't love him or hate him....
But its true to say I no longer care what goes on in his life. I used to. Now I just think....good for him....but it has nothing to do with me. If I never heard his name again.. thats ok too

@RubySoo I understand, but still I'm confused about one thing. You said "I'd like the chance to face him out and show him I no longer give two hoots". If you really don't give two hoots, why would you wish for this scenario? It would appear that a part of you still cares what he thinks. That's just the way it appears.

@SW-User I can see why you would see it that way. It's a very valid question. I guess what I mean is.....the proof if whether I really am indifferent would only really be known if I saw him. If I could ignore him, or smile and walk tall then I could truly say I'm indifferent.
There is always the chance....I'd see him and react in the opposite way....my heart would pound and my knees would buckle and all those feelings...love and hate would flood back. It actually happened before.... when there hadn't been enough time and distance between us.

Now I feel im strong enough....that I would finally be able to show he no longer had any power over me.