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WildernessWriterExplorer · 31-35, M
I would go with 3 days. If you let them continue to grieve and go without school and they associate that reaction as a reward they will continue to grieve harder and longer. Also you have to make them understand that the grieving process is something that they need to get past because as the death of a loved one is tragic and hard, life still goes on.
@WildernessWriterExplorer I understand that. We weren't planning on having him miss too much school. I just don't think he's ready to go back just yet.
WildernessWriterExplorer · 31-35, M
I don’t think you should treat him as a child on this one. This is a mature adult matter and if a person is able to understand the concept of life and death then they need to understand how to grieve. But keeping them home is the worst place to be. They have very low thinking stimulus such as tv, games, and the internet. This allows for a constant dwelling on the death of a loved one in the subconscious. The best thing to do is go out and getting them moving physically. It burns energy and helps them to focus on a task and get through the process. After that they’ll go back to school where they need to be truly focused.
@WildernessWriterExplorer We haven't been keeping him inside and letting him watch TV and such. :) We've been making him do things, even if he doesn't want to. But yes, he will go back to school soon.