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Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
I think a child's loss of a parent is probably the ultimate in psychological disruption.
The effects of which can have long lasting repercussions.
One would hope the child would have access to grief counselling at the very least, and maybe a period of transition supported by education departments; social services and medical bodies.
ALL of whom should appreciate just how hard grief can be to deal with !
The effects of which can have long lasting repercussions.
One would hope the child would have access to grief counselling at the very least, and maybe a period of transition supported by education departments; social services and medical bodies.
ALL of whom should appreciate just how hard grief can be to deal with !
@Picklebobble2 It's been horrible. He's been hurting so much and there is little we can do about it. He has had access to counselling since he found out his mum was very sick, and we will continue to take him. We also explain things to him as best we can and make sure he knows we're there for him. I know he needs to go to school eventually. I just don't think he is ready to go back yet. It doesn't help that he gets bullied everyday he goes there. The school isn't very good with bullying.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
@lauriethecolourful any chance he might receive a tutor ? For a while at least ?
I understand the argument for using school as a 'constant' in a child's changing life.
But if he gets aggro from those at school anyway, how do the school hope to keep a lid on that ??
I understand the argument for using school as a 'constant' in a child's changing life.
But if he gets aggro from those at school anyway, how do the school hope to keep a lid on that ??
@Picklebobble2 The school is doing very little, and it obviously isn't working. I think a lot of schools are the same. I've went to the parents of tbe boys who bully him, and they basically laughed in my face and told him there kids "wouldn't do that."
But yes. A tutor might be a good idea. We've been doing a little bit of school with him at least 1-2 hours a day, but we're not teachers.
But yes. A tutor might be a good idea. We've been doing a little bit of school with him at least 1-2 hours a day, but we're not teachers.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
@lauriethecolourful Nor should you be. You have enough trying to cope with the day to day without trying to do that as well !
Does he have a social worker or a therapist ?
I ask because what you really need is a 'professional' or two to support both him AND you.
If neither have been assigned to him/you, go to your and HIS doctor and ask for a referral. To BOTH !
No end of professional bodies will jump down your throat trying to make you 'accountable', spin it and see if it works the other way.
Does he have a social worker or a therapist ?
I ask because what you really need is a 'professional' or two to support both him AND you.
If neither have been assigned to him/you, go to your and HIS doctor and ask for a referral. To BOTH !
No end of professional bodies will jump down your throat trying to make you 'accountable', spin it and see if it works the other way.
@Picklebobble2 He does have both already - a psychiatrist and a social worker. :) We took him to see a psychiatrist when his mother got very sick and he's still seeing him.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
@lauriethecolourful So he probably has as much outside help/interference (depending on whether you think either are helping) as he could have.
So between them; you and him. You need a 'plan' as to how to get him at least ready to look at going back to school.
Do you ever have 'Planning meetings', organised by the social worker ?
So between them; you and him. You need a 'plan' as to how to get him at least ready to look at going back to school.
Do you ever have 'Planning meetings', organised by the social worker ?
@Picklebobble2 Oh yes! They both help us a lot. The social worker is more there to make sure my partner and I are taking good care of him, but she does give us support when we ask. The psychiatrist mostly has one-on-one sessions with the boy, but we've had family sessions too. :) We were thinking of sending him back to school next week.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
@lauriethecolourful so you have a plan in place. Good !....Does he know yet ??
if so. how did he take it ??
if so. how did he take it ??
@Picklebobble2 We do. :) He does know. He was a good boy about it, even though he cried a little. He was concerned about the bullies and us being mad at him if he didn't do so well in school for a little while. Bless him.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
@lauriethecolourful Awesome that he was able to TELL you that !!
Now at least, you know what's in his mind at the mention of school !
Well. I guess all you can do is send him off and hope that he finds/connects with enough people who sympathize to ease him back into things.
I hope it goes well for him i really do.
Kids eh ?? lol
Mine are in their late 20's and STILL have me awake at nights ! 😁
Now at least, you know what's in his mind at the mention of school !
Well. I guess all you can do is send him off and hope that he finds/connects with enough people who sympathize to ease him back into things.
I hope it goes well for him i really do.
Kids eh ?? lol
Mine are in their late 20's and STILL have me awake at nights ! 😁
@Picklebobble2 Thank you so much. :) I hope so too. My partner and I always tell him that he can tell us anything, and he does.
Hahaha. I think that's part of being a parent. You will always be worried about them, no matter how old they are. :)
Hahaha. I think that's part of being a parent. You will always be worried about them, no matter how old they are. :)