Do you try and end something before its ended for fear of rejection?

@ZenKitzune it happens to a lot of people. And I don't blame her. Because sometimes even though she may say she requires certain things to feel secure a lot of the time the other person doesn't feel they should have to do those things like being consistent.

@Peppa it's just not the nature of things..the only thing you can do is face up to that and adjust your own expectations..or always be miserable.

@ZenKitzune so your telling me if you were dating a guy he did something throughout the honeymoon phase like let's say he called/text you at least once a day then when you got past that stage there were no texts or calls except when he wanted to come over you wouldn't think it was odd? And you wouldn't ask him what's up?

@Peppa what are we talking about here exactly? A complete 180 in behaviour or the natural progression of a relationships stages?...because those are two very different things.

@Eclipse oh I get it completely..but like I tell her it's something [i]she[/i] needs to deal with or she will always find herself back there.

@ZenKitzune it was just an example of things that can happen. In the beginning stages things can be really intense seeing each other all the time, texting/calling throughout the day. Then as you get more settled together the intensity wears off. Sometimes the euphoria can cause a lot of people to crash. And the reality of work kicks in the time you had can't be sustained because you were actually juggling and sacrificing to be with your new interest more. This can be distressing to someone that has obviously experienced some level of uncertainty, or previously been cheated on. They then self sabotage because they make their insecurities known and the other person feels under pressure. So they run a mile.

But whether it's behavioural changes or natural progression most women question it. Those with good support units talk their insecurities out with their female friends so he's non the wiser.
Is that a little clearer as I know I can be jumbled in my writing sometimes.

@Peppa I understand the reasons and the process, but again it is only to be solved by understanding romantic relationships and their natural progression through the phases. I have studied a lot in the field of relationship psychology as I had interest in relationship counselling. My friend has asked me about it numerous times and I have advised her to look into couples counselling..the problem is that she doesn't think the problem is with her..from the outside it's quite obvious to anyone who knows her. It is a common problem and one that could be helped if people were properly educated in the matter..after all, relationships are a massive part of our lives.

@ZenKitzune I guess but how many people actually read about relationship progression. You're not given a manual. Most people feel their way through things as she is. Obviously you recognize she has an issue that could be addressed which I don't think she does as again there's that stigma about therapy isn't there... so I guess she would need to deal with it or continue with the heartbreak.

@Peppa If something is screwing up your life..it's probably worth looking into.

@ZenKitzune but your friend hasn't come to that stage yet. No matter how painful it is for your to watch. "You can bring a horse to water but you can't force him to drink it!!!" Heard that one...?