Is it normal to still be grieving terribly 5 years after someone died?

SW-User

There is no time limit

toddr13 · 46-50, M

People grieve in their own way and on their own time schedule, so there's no real definition as to what would be a norm in that situation. Some people are fine, but a smell, a place, or some other memory is triggered that brings their grief to the surface.

PeanutsauntieP1982 · 41-45, F

I think that depends from person to person, situation to situation. A particularly traumatic or sudden death can take years to heal from, and we all handle the grieving process differently. May I suggest you read Elisabeth Kübler-Ross' "On Death and dying," and her "The twelve stages of grief." Both books have been very helpful to me, and others that have read them. And, you may want to seek bereavement counseling from a local hospice. Dying and death are what they deal with, so who best to help?

Danez · M

no one grieves the same length of time. I still grieve for someone that committed suicide 10 yrs ago

OzDiver · 61-69, M

Absolutely. Everyone grieves at their own pace, and at their own depth, and in their own way. Your emotions are truly valid to you. Find your own way towards your place of comfort and acceptance, however, whenever and wherever you can. There is no time limit. I wish you comfort on your journey.

SW-User

It's normal, but something to take concern over. I lost my father eight years ago, and without doubt it's affected my life which I could change I would. Instead, I cope.

SW-User

Depends on the intensity I suppose. If I'm still struggling to collect myself to carry on with my own life after 5 years then yes I'd think I'm going a bit overboard with it.

SW-User

No.... to be honest I think you would always grieve a loss. The intensity just lessens over time. There is no normal or abnormal when it comes to losing someone. Everyone grieves in their own way.