Have you ever wondered what counts and what not?

Sometimes you care and sometimes you don't. Do you ever wonder what counts and what not? Some would argue its the intent. Some would say actions. Words, no matter how powerful, could be topped by actions I think. But words joined with actions and intent, ahh...is there something that could count as a more powerful combination? Some deeds, you do without even thinking. So what counts really? And what doesn't?