Life After Love

I broke off an abusive relationship it's only been about 2-3ish days. So many emotions run through my mind. I am trying to process losing a significant and much-loved person and friend in my life gone in an instant. I want to build on an outline of what I want to achieve before returning to finding love again. It will change depending on my life. I can't think of liking anyone else, but I know I don't want to stay single. I want love and I want to find someone that fits me. I need to do some healing and inner work to achieve this.

Phase I. - Self Love

I will be mostly mourning my loved one at this time. A lot of emotions and thoughts will be in my mind and my heart.

- Positive Affirmations and Self Talk Daily
- Read a Book on Self Love
- Read a Book on Abusive Relationships
- Write my Thoughts and Feelings Here
- Building a more scheduled workout routine with scheduled in-person cycle classes (to get out and be amongst the people more)
- Start a noninflammatory diet.
- Stop Smoking Weed
- Friend dates

Phase II. - New Beginnings

- Start Medication for depression/anxiety
- Take a painting Class
- Read a book on healthy ways to date
- Get a new job (less stress)
- Workout how to save for a house
- Start Planning a vacation or next Self Care Expense
- Start Taking Photos of Self
- Practice Self Love exercises
- Solo dates + Friends

Phase III. - Finding Love

- Read a book on healthy relationship
- Buy some new clothes to feel great
- Go on fun dates and prioritize yourself, and your friends and be kind.

HootyTheNightOwl

This is a good start to your bright and happy future.

Hopefully, you will be able to do quite a bit of reading about abusive relationships before you are ready to date again.

Even though you are out now, it might be worth having a look at domestic abuse websites as well as reading books because they can give you a good idea of what to look out for in terms of abuse signs.