I Beleive Guys And Girls Can Be Just Friends
While I do agree that guys and girls can just be friends, I hate it when people act like you can't or shouldn't grow to love a friend romantically.
It's like so many people seem to think you just have to go for that love at first sight bull crap and they seem to look down on the concept of gradually progressing relationships.
Am I the only one who can't just see a girl I don't know and just instantly start liking her? Am I the only one who actually needs to know a girl and be friends with her or at least have some kind of experience with her first in order for me to develop any kind of feelings for her?
This mainly just reminds me of two friends of mine in college who started dating and then eventually broke up. The girl at one point was ranting to me about how she thought the guy had wronged her by asking her out when she didn't have feelings for him.
Now here's my stance on the matter:
1. First of all, how the heck was the guy supposed to know that she had no romantic feelings for him? What is he supposed to be psychic and read her mind?
2. Secondly, I'm not saying that this means that she was obligated to date him or that she owed him anything, but... How could she not at least understand the logic of how he fell for her? How could she call him wrong for asking her out? I'm not saying that she had to say yes, but I wholeheartedly disagree with the notion that he was wrong for going after a girl that he genuinely developed feelings for after the two had spent so much time together.
For reference, the two had been hanging out with each other and spending time together alone just about all day every day for around a year or so before my male friend worked up the nerve to ask her out.
Growing feelings for someone under those circumstances is natural (I'm not saying that it is mandatory or that it is guaranteed, but it is natural and genuine when it does happen).
For fellow anime fans:
This is also like how I've seen some people say that the Fairy Tail shipping of Natsu and Lucy makes less sense than the Naruto ship of Sasuke and Sakura!
What the heck??? What is wrong with people?
The people who say this reason that "at least Sakura already had feelings for Sasuke".
What bull crap! Just what were her stupid feelings based on? Looks! Nothing more! The two would later go on to stage mutual assassination attempts against each other and Sasuke once even set out to destroy the village that Sakura called home.
Yet somehow this sorry excuse of a couple is more sensible than the pairing of two people (Natsu and Lucy) who have gone on several adventures together, saved each other time and time again, been through thick and thin together, and much more.
Somehow Sasuke and Sakura makes more sense simply because Sakura always thought Sasuke looked good.
Long story short:
Maybe some people find love more sensible if they can immediately orgasm and soil their underwear upon first sight of a person, but not me!
Some of us actually need more substance behind our relationships to develop feelings!
It's like so many people seem to think you just have to go for that love at first sight bull crap and they seem to look down on the concept of gradually progressing relationships.
Am I the only one who can't just see a girl I don't know and just instantly start liking her? Am I the only one who actually needs to know a girl and be friends with her or at least have some kind of experience with her first in order for me to develop any kind of feelings for her?
This mainly just reminds me of two friends of mine in college who started dating and then eventually broke up. The girl at one point was ranting to me about how she thought the guy had wronged her by asking her out when she didn't have feelings for him.
Now here's my stance on the matter:
1. First of all, how the heck was the guy supposed to know that she had no romantic feelings for him? What is he supposed to be psychic and read her mind?
2. Secondly, I'm not saying that this means that she was obligated to date him or that she owed him anything, but... How could she not at least understand the logic of how he fell for her? How could she call him wrong for asking her out? I'm not saying that she had to say yes, but I wholeheartedly disagree with the notion that he was wrong for going after a girl that he genuinely developed feelings for after the two had spent so much time together.
For reference, the two had been hanging out with each other and spending time together alone just about all day every day for around a year or so before my male friend worked up the nerve to ask her out.
Growing feelings for someone under those circumstances is natural (I'm not saying that it is mandatory or that it is guaranteed, but it is natural and genuine when it does happen).
For fellow anime fans:
This is also like how I've seen some people say that the Fairy Tail shipping of Natsu and Lucy makes less sense than the Naruto ship of Sasuke and Sakura!
What the heck??? What is wrong with people?
The people who say this reason that "at least Sakura already had feelings for Sasuke".
What bull crap! Just what were her stupid feelings based on? Looks! Nothing more! The two would later go on to stage mutual assassination attempts against each other and Sasuke once even set out to destroy the village that Sakura called home.
Yet somehow this sorry excuse of a couple is more sensible than the pairing of two people (Natsu and Lucy) who have gone on several adventures together, saved each other time and time again, been through thick and thin together, and much more.
Somehow Sasuke and Sakura makes more sense simply because Sakura always thought Sasuke looked good.
Long story short:
Maybe some people find love more sensible if they can immediately orgasm and soil their underwear upon first sight of a person, but not me!
Some of us actually need more substance behind our relationships to develop feelings!
26-30, M