I realized something this morning

I got a message from someone I havent seen in forever that made me realize this. The two people that I have fallen the hardest for throughout my life are very similar. Both very artistic and detail-oriented, they play guitar, and extremely intelligent bordering psychotic, hahahaha.

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ElwoodBlues · M

Does this pattern also fit somebody you were close to growing up?

Nebula · 41-45, F

@ElwoodBlues yes

Nebula · 41-45, F

@ElwoodBlues my Dad

ElwoodBlues · M

@Nebula It's good you're so self aware. It is mighty common for people to pattern their attractions on their parents. This is only a problem if the pattern ends up bad for you, like toxic or whatever.

Nebula · 41-45, F

@ElwoodBlues yeah. I think I just want someone that loves me like my Dad loved my Mom, without the toxic parts

ElwoodBlues · M

@Nebula So you're gonna have to get good at detecting the toxic behaviors before you get too deeply in, so you can filter those people out. The dangerous part would be if the toxicity were part of the attraction. That does happen.

PhoenixPhail · M

@ElwoodBlues Good question.