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Ghosting prevalency

I hate how prevalent ghosting is. No matter where you try to talk to people to connect, they ghost. I used to think it's because I was the problem and because I would scare them off but in reality, I realized it's just been normalized to ghost now
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Oneiric · 26-30
My rudimentary hypothesis is information saturation. Think about it, we have so much at the tips of our fingers. We can talk to people all over the world. We can easily slip into escapist scrolling or videos or audiobooks or podcasts. It's easy. It's comfortable. Many people get drawn into it. That isn't a failing on anyones part entirely. We live in a system where attention is commoditized. Your time is worth money. more so than ever before.

Anyway, not to get rambling about it but for me, I can't blame the people. It happens so often. There are so many things that are economically incentivized to make our dopamine fire on our phones and computers and TVs. You don't have to worry about what the person on the show you're watching thinks about your. You don't worry about the character in a game. When its over is when you set your device down. No worries. No strings attached.

It's easy to take it to heart. But I think it's less about you and more about the world. You have to cater to peoples individual intrests. Or make a spectacle. Or a wide variety of other mechanisms that get the dopamine and such flowing. It's the new normal. That's why I had to accept it, personally. If I keep overthinking the reasons in the moment, maybe I'll detach.

We live in a society. It is what we do with it. That's the only thing we've got. The ability to choose how we interact with the trials and tribulation and pain and love.
UnknownEnigma · 26-30
@Oneiric I agree with your take on the landscape, however I still personally do not give a free pass on people who ghost and tell myself it's fine when it's not. It's not that I take it personal, I just see ghosting as a cowardice act, whether people are more dopamine driven or not. It's all about personal agency and accountability, which nobody has anymore. I do agree this is the new "normal", and I accept reality for what it is, but accepting doesn't mean I have to be okay with it or agree with morally, because I don't and I never will
Oneiric · 26-30
@UnknownEnigma That is our eternal struggle. In a system that constrains relational value, where do we draw the line? For all that I said up there, it has drawn me into withdrawal and apathy. I don't think there are any answers to it. We just have to choose the way we interact with what we have been given. That is about the only power of agency I can identify when it gets granular. I know 'given' is doing some heavy lifting there. By that I mean that we have a certain latitude under constraint systems. We can break it. We also might not be who we are on the other side. Kill part of yourself or work with what you have. It isn't that we can always achieve more, it's the cost. Aw hell, I'm looking at myself right now, not you. I'll leave this for posterity. Never take advice from someone who has already chosen the easy path.