Do you connect with people your age?

I don't at all. People my age are married, with kids and grandkids and either retired or about to retire and they have their lives together. The women have all cut their hair in pixies and wear polyester pants and eyeglasses with chains. I just have nothing to talk to them about. I've never had kids and my husband is late. I feel like I am still 25 inside and am always so shocked to see how old I am in the mirror and I just get along better with young people.

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PunkRockSuperStar · 61-69, M

Yeah, I don't recognise myself in the mirror and I keep wondering how the hell I got here so suddenly. Where did the last twenty years go? What the hell was I doing?

I never got married or had a family either. Actually, I'm glad about that because the expense and responsibility of maintaining a household would have been a tough challenge. But it does leave you feeling pretty bereft and solitary when all your older relatives have gone.

I still love music and all the other things that excited me when I was in my teens and twenties. It seems that for many people, that all changes when they become 'grown up' (it was just a phase!), but for me it never did. But I don't know how I'm supposed to feel and act now that I'm 60.

Mardrae · 61-69, F

@PunkRockSuperStar I'll be 60 in June and am having a hard time with it. It's so much harder for an aging woman than it is for a man- you can still find someone if you want- for a woman, it's pretty much over as far as dating. I don't want to be that person going on and on about how great the 80's were, but weren't they great?!!!

PunkRockSuperStar · 61-69, M

@Mardrae The seventies were more my decade, but yeah! Also, I used to console myself with the belief that men could still be physically attractive at an older age than women, but I no longer believe that. Perhaps a consolation is that our needs change as we get older. I'm a lot less sexually-driven than I was in my youth, and I would very happily settle for companionship and some hugs and caresses under the covers with a nice lady these days.

Incidentally, I saw your selfie and you aren't an unattractive lady at all. I think we tend to be our own worst critics!

Mardrae · 61-69, F

@PunkRockSuperStar awww, thank you so much! You're not unattractive either, and yes we all are our own worst enemies.

Mardrae · 61-69, F

@PunkRockSuperStar oh, and welcome to SW! How long have you been here and how do you like it so far?@PunkRockSuperStar

PunkRockSuperStar · 61-69, M

@Mardrae I had an anonymous profile on SW for a short while previously, and I was also on EP some years ago. I set up my present profile yesterday and decided to go public with my name and some photos as I hoped that would make it easier for me to befriend people or for them to befriend me. So far, I'm not sure that it has: perhaps people feel safer hiding behind anonymous profiles, as so many seem to do? Anyway, I'm hoping to find a more meaningful mode of communication and way to make friends than is possible with crappy social media sites. I'm on Farcebook, but nobody really communicates on there. Not that I can blame people for that, because that site just isn't designed for meaningful communication. It's a mystery to me why it's still so popular.

Oh, I'm Mike from Edinburgh, Scotland, by the way. Would you like to tell me a little about yourself?

Mardrae · 61-69, F

@PunkRockSuperStar you can message me if you like- I don't share too much about myself on public posts, but am always looking for new friends to chat with!

PunkRockSuperStar · 61-69, M

@Mardrae Just did! 🙂❤️