You’re My Kind Of People If…

@BizSuitStacy Different version of the same thing I guess. Had a kid here a few years ago that I said that to. He was up here doing all kinds of things, saw him shoot the siding with a sling shot and a rock one time, narrowly missing a bedroom window. Had a dead snake hanging off my car door handle, trash tore up and thrown in the yard as well as random sticks, side gate to the back yard swinging open (he bragged to neighbor kids he was coming in the back yard when we were gone), and the final straw was him trying to torment an cat that was getting away from him in the big tree in my front yard.

@cherokeepatti in all seriousness...enjoying a morning cup of joe on the deck or porch and just appreciating the wonders of everything all around us is one of my favorites things.

@BizSuitStacy I’m happy to be retired to be able to do this more often now. Had a neighbor in a tiny village that I lived in after getting married who would get up in the morning wearing her house dress in warmer weather and sit on her porch and do that. She had big wide covered porch and would see me do something outside and call me over. We’d sit and talk for up to an hour some mornings. It was nice.

@cherokeepatti How old was the punk?

@NativePortlander1970 One year older than the boy is. He was angry because I the boy didn’t want to hang out with him. This other boy was outdoors almost all the time in good weather and sometimes in colder weather too. It was his mother causing that because she didn’t want to tolerate him. I was walking twice and would hear her tell him to shut up when he was trying to talk and tell him something. I had no respect for that mother because of that. That boy would tell mine to sneak my laptop out of the house so they could play games on it and not to tell me and he would fix it back so I wouldn’t know. Here I was in the house and that was not going to happen. But the boy came home and told me. That and other such things. I told the boy he shouldn’t hang out with him but that boy would wait till he got off the school bus and chase him back to our house, I stood and watched one afternoon. I told the other boy he wasn’t allowed to do that and to leave him alone and not to come up in our yard because he didn’t want to hang out with him due to things he was doing. He denied it and kept coming around. That last time I told him if he ever stepped food on our yard or even the driveway again I’d just call the police and let them go over and talk to his mother. He told his mother because one of the neighbor girls told the boy his mother told him to not come around here when he went outside. The boy eventually got injured on a piece of tin when he was riding his bike. Had to go to the hospital and be admitted and stitched up and stayed for 3 days. It was that bad and all due to the trash and neglect of the mother. The yard was a mess and the backyard worse from what the boy told me. Swimming pool full of trash floating, dirt, dog turds etc and stagnant. Overgrown lawn with trash and junk and toys strewn about. IT took this to happen to make the mother watch him indoors and for a full year she’ only let him out once a week to roam around the neighborhood and he was much better behaved, even other adults noticed that. He’d go around on his skateboard or bike and not bother anyone. I think the mother was aware that if another accident happened with that boy he would be removed from the home or something. She started taking him seriously then.

@cherokeepatti Time to get cps involved, to get that boy away from that woman before she damages the kid even more.

@NativePortlander1970 I think it’s resolved now. This boy was going to an alternative school because of his behavior. He was kicked out of public school when he was in 1st or 2nd grade, told the boy he broke another student’s arm and got suspended. So went to the alternative school near here. Now he is in high school, and has said Hi to the boy when they saw each other in the hall between classes but doesn’t try to be aggressive. I think his parents were the problem. His mother seemed very selfish and superficial. She’s at home all the time and I don’t know if she is on disability or works at home. I suspect disability, she wouldn’t pick up anything around the yard etc. Now gets a neighbor to mow for her every couple weeks. Her husband bought that house, tore out most of the backyard landscaping that summer and built that pool for them. She lets it get trashed to where they can’t use it. He won a lottery and left her saying he wanted to start a new life about a year later. Divorced her and married someone else. Told her to put the house on the market to sell and she put a sign in the front yard for a few days and then knocked it over so nobody would see it. That was about 7 years ago and she’s still there. I don’t see the father come around but the boy gets bikes, skateboards and all sorts of such things. I think that divorce was a problem for him and the way he was neglected.

@cherokeepatti That was the average kid in my group home in the late 80's, always in trouble, I was one of the rare ones where they all said I shouldn't be there because I was never in trouble at school or with the law.

@NativePortlander1970 My neighbor said one day she was walking and saw another neighbor, they were standing near the street corner having a conversation. This boy came up to the stop sign and started banging on it repeatedly with a large stick. They could barely have a conversation and it got under their skin. My neighbor has a loud voice and spoke up and told him to stop. He looked her in the eyes and did it again and again. She wanted to throttle him. I don’t know how many others he did that to and what all else he did. It was always something with that boy. Seems better now, his mother is watching him and probably will till she’s not legally liable any more.

@cherokeepatti Maybe it's time for that kid to see a head shrinker.

@NativePortlander1970 If the truth was known maybe he did get counseling. He sure needed it but the parents were the problem. I think the mother had to get scared to change her ways. Probably getting a wad of child support and maybe alimony too since her ex won a big lottery. I don’t know how much but he decided to move on from her.