I think calling an honest person a liar

I think calling an honest person a liar, for your own benefit, to keep your reputation in tact, is the worst thing a human can do, and probably the most selfish thing to do. It’s an act of desperation and makes the accuser look bad and not trustworthy.
My fighting friends post continued… so now I know why they aren’t talking. They disagree about what cheating is
Yep one of my friends who drinks excessively and has fooled around behind his wife’claims that BJ aren’t “cheating” so anyone who says he is cheating is a liar. Because getting a BJ at a bar isn’t cheating. And if you call it cheating, that’s lying. OMG

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Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

Ah, we'd talk to no body if it were for all these lies being told.
Seems everybody and their damn dog is living on cloud delusion.

It's scary actually...

Mindful · 56-60, F

I do find it scarey and delusional… when someone I consider a friend thinks this way. What’s unbelievable is that he is extremely …. decent … reliable and lately paranoid@Mellowgirl

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Mindful it's the foolery catching up with him.
When we know something's not right it plays in your subconscious and manifests in things like paranoia, anxiety, poor sleep, irritability, aggression, poor appetite.
The list goes on. I always urge people to stay in the light.

Mindful · 56-60, F

You are 100% correct…. Profound.What’s ironic is that he is needlessly hiding things from me when I’ve know for years! He thinks his secret life is a secret. He’s afraid if I know it will change our friendship. I know peoples secrets and they don’t even know I know them. Why hide who you are? Or why be rmbarerassedr? @Mellowgirl

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Mindful maybe facing you means confronting his indiscretions

Mindful · 56-60, F

I dunno@Mellowgirl

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Mindful it's intimidating approaching someone all knowing especially when it's something we're not proud of. Maybe try softening a little. Not to baby him but to get him to open up, the re question is, is it for you or him?

Mindful · 56-60, F

No I’m just an observer who is dissalppointed in a friend who can’t be honest with me and would rather call a friend a liar because he doesn’t want said friend to be a witness in court…because said person is a “liar”@Mellowgirl what he really means is that the person will tell the truth (there by making him look bad) he won’t say that to me because he thinks I’m a fool., and would rather denounce such a friend as someone who tells lies.
But the lies are related to sex and alcohol. I think if you like sex and alcohol you just need to admit it.Don’t call your best friend of 30 year in whom you confided in- a liar.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Mindful Well that settled that.