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Does this seem f!cked up or justified? I'm conflicted.

In exactly a week cause I'm moving back to my hometown since I just graduated. Thinking of leaving without saying goodbye to my college "bff". I put that in marks because it doesn't feel like we are. We don't even hang or talk like we used to. I can barely even get a text back. She graduated last year and works full time now. I totally respect she works and is in a relationship with the boyfriend she lives with.

My reasoning for wanting to leave without saying anything is because she says she's super busy with work so she can't reply and doesn't have time for anyone but yet she talks about going out with her frat friends and her bf. Or goes to raves with them. Get this: we don't even live that far from each other(10mins at most).Took her off Snapchat last year because she always posted stuff with the frat but never replied until later. Her excuse was always, "Omg, I just got your text, my phone isn't working. I don't get notifications." *eye roll*

If she actually wanted to hang out before I leave she would've contacted me already. She knows that I'm leaving and I've told her already. I've talked to her about how we don't talk much and she apologizes but nothing has changed. I've just been really disappointed/hurt by previous friendships this past year which is another reason why I just wanna leave town. I'm moving 6hrs away and I'm not coming back.

If you were in my situation what would you do?
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I'm sorry you have suffered disappointment. I hope you choose not to take it personally. Her behaviour is more a reflection on who she is as a person than who you are. Her style of communication is evasive and not honest. Regardless of what her other charms may be, we all deserve to be treated with honesty and respect simply because we all have feelings.

In your situation, I would find a really nice card, maybe something with a photo of a spectacular flower. I'd write a very pleasant message with two or three comments about the good qualities of your friendship in its early days. Then I'd wish her well in her future life and sign it with "warm regards." I'd leave out all the hurt I feel. Leave no sign of clinging or begging. This would leave a pleasant taste in her memories.

Sometimes, late in life, old friends get curious to see what happened to the people they once knew. A good message makes that possible.
UltimateZero · 26-30
@clothos: well I didn't leave a letter or anything but I did send her a message saying that I was going to be leaving town. You know sort of just implying that I wanted to say goodbye or you know to give her a chance to say goodbye to me and stop by. And it's like she didn't really reply that you just said oh let's hang out but literally no plans were made and I feel like she was avoiding me. Already moved back home and she still didn't reply to my message.