Would you stay friend with such a person or not?

So I was hanging out with this girl, whom I've expressed my feelings for a few months ago, and got friend-zoned. She's told me I'm one of her best friends a number of times. She was to go to a coffee shop, to meet 3 people, one being her college best friend, whom she was having a fight (ego issues) with and the other two guys being not-so-close friends, whom she called jerks in front of me. Since I love spending time with her, I asked if I can come with her too. She called one of these guys and asked if she can bring me along. The guy most probably said no. So the girl apologized profusely to me and said that she felt bad. But still chose to hang out with those three people, two of whom she called jerks, and had a fight with the third, over her 'best friend', which is me :|

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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

You are not "friends." So far, at least, it is not a friendship; it is a failed courtship. And by your description of her behavior, and way of speaking, she is just not that mature. You can still have her in your life, but you will have to understand this is not really a friendship, it's you hoping she'll change her mind about you. This kind of person is unlikely to take you out of the friend zone at this stage of both of your lives. She sounds like the type who will decide you were the best guy she knew when she's hitting her late 20s and getting her first divorce. You could back off and wait until then....or just decide to continue to see her now and then but don't expect too much.