Friendship drifting apart.

Im young and I currently moved from the province Im in. I know im probably too young lurking on sites. But I really need your opinion on this one. Its been probably 2 weeks since I moved. Im really attached to my friends from last school year since I dont have much friends growing up. Ive been really attached to this one guy last year. Am I being unreasonable of being jelous now that this guy is making friends and not checking up on me? We have been inseparable, were two peas in a pod. But now that im far away, im really hurt that were drifting apart no matter how hard i try to keep everything at its place. Im the one constantly reaching out and making things work. Im unclear of my feelings toward him but Im sure is hurt. Hurt as in I will bawl my eyes out for this. I always make sure that he have me to listen to everything about his life. Im there when hes feeling down, he need someone to talk to, and to rant on some things. But as you can see, Im all alone right now and ranting on a site. Please give me some advice, tell me what I need to do to feel better, or what I need to do to resolve this conflict. Im counting on this site since I dont have friends irl. I hope you dont find this shallow since Im young and the content of this rant is not as deep as the others. I think my feeling are still valid so please interact with me.

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Casheyane · 31-35, F

You're a person. The first step to healing is understanding and learning to accept that it's okay to feel things. Your feelings are valid. But they are just that. Feelings.

Your actions despite and inspite of your feelings, that would show who you are.

Years ago, I came to Similar Worlds to heal from grief. Now, you came here for a different reason. I would advise that there are people here you should be wary of. But there are also some really good ones. I hope you find them.

I think that at your age, it makes sense to think that the ones you have would be your whole world. But let me tell you a secret. It isn't about the people you started the journey with that would count in the end. It's about who would stick around and be there for you in thick or thin. Some people we lose end up coming back. But some don't, and that is okay.
Some people would find you, and some would lose you too. It is life.

As for your friend, the choice is up to you. As it always is because you are the main character in your life. So do not let others hold the reins.

I think he is just living his life. If he finds other people to grow with, it doesn't lessen your worth.
But as a fellow woman, I hope you won't be dependent on him. You are important. Plenty of girls accept minimal effort because they forget their own value, their own worth.

You decide how you are treated by what you accept in the behavior of others towards you. Giving him distance may also make him miss you. If not, that's alright. Find people who would choose you. You deserve that.

So there. :) Hang in there.

It isn't the end of your world. It is but a page on it. Turn the page.

jellyace · 22-25, F

@Casheyane thank you so much. I'll hold on for sure and always take your advice with me