How to get my best friend to take COVID-19 seriously?

I’ve tried to explain to my best friend that by ignoring the order to quarantine that she’d be putting immunocompromised people like my mom and my other relatives at risk. My mom could die. My best friend is all “I’m not going to stop living my life. Everyone who has gone out has accepted the risk of getting it.” And “everyone is going to get it eventually. You can’t expect everyone to stay home. You can’t act all high and mighty and better than everyone else. If your mom were young and healthy, you’d be going out too.” And I’ve even explained that there’s a difference between going out of necessity and going out because she’s bored, but she doesn’t care. It really hurts to think that she doesn’t care that she’s putting people at risk and being selfish. I think she’s really upset with me. What should I do?

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IHateMyLife0MeDie · 41-45, M

You can show her the message from Italy video warning USA of what's to come, and perhaps anything else that shows how serious this thing is.

But if she is so heedless, then maybe, she isn't a best friend, let alone a friend.

Just wondering, but does she live alone? Does she have plans for spring break?

sabrinarose · 26-30, F

@IHateMyLife0MeDie She lives with her boyfriend. I believe she’s been trying to stay home, but has gotten to the point where she doesn’t care anymore and has been going out when bored. She doesn’t have any plans, as our break is over, but she has been continuing to go to work. (Which is understandable.)

IHateMyLife0MeDie · 41-45, M

@sabrinarose I'm trying my best to be open minded about her. If she seems like she just wants to party, then that's not good. If you think this is something more complicated, like maybe she came from an abusive home and was controlled partly by not being allowed to go out or whatever else then... I don't have easy answers for you. But I think even if it was the latter, still not really an excuse, and you have to keep yourself and family safe.