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Tell me the honest truth, am I a bad friend (Honest answers)?

Poll - Total Votes: 8
Yes you are a really bad friend
No your best friend needs to get over it
I don't know
You don't deserve friends
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My best friend found out on Instagram two days ago that I'm going to a concert next week (this week) with my close friend. My close friend posted it and tagged me in it. They don't know each other well. My close friend and I have been listening to this band for a few months. She texted me angry saying, "Why didn't you tell me you were going to a concert next week?!"
She doesn't even know this band. I told her about it and she said, "No never heard of them." I told her there is still time to get tickets but buy them online. She is like, "Whatever! It's too late now! My own best friend didn't even tell me. Why don't you tell me anything anymore?! I invite you to places and you can't even do the same for me!" I was like, "You've never heard of them so how can you enjoy them? I'm sorry sis." She isn't responding. Wtf
I sent her the link where to get tickets. The concert is this Thursday.
My aunt said I should have at least told her and frankly I'm a bad friend for not telling her. Don't forget my other friends.
My mom said I did the same thing to my other friend (now ex friend) for not telling her about the party and I told her the last minute. My mom said bluntly I'm not being a good friend and I okay the victim too much and don't wanna see my own faults.
I was going to tell her!
You’re not a bad friend.
Unless you have made an exclusivity agreement that you can’t have a life without her knowing your every move.
Why is she upset anyhow? Is she afraid you will leave her for this other friend?
JoeyFoxx · 51-55, M
First of all, it seems rather odd that you have this scale of "best" vs "close" friend. It also seems unusual that your best friend wouldn't know a close friend.

So, how do you distinguish the difference?

Are you a good friend? That's hard to answer.

It could be that your friend is being unreasonable. But, it also appears that you have had relationship issues like this with others.

It could be that you are not setting clear expectations in terms of what you expect from a friend and what you expect to give to a friend.

Do YOU think you're being a good friend? How would you react if your "best" friend did the same to you?
SW-User
I picked no but I don't think she should just get over it. My best friend is allowed to go places with other people without me...especially since she knows i'm not into concerts and bars. You knew your friend didn't know about the band...I'd try to tell her in the kindest way possible that you didn't mean to hurt her feelings.
SW-User
if I was younger I would have called you a bad friend but seeing that she doesn't even know the band why would she want to go?

 
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