So I broke up with my BFF and I'm honestly okay with it. Is there something wrong with me?
At first it wasn't intentional. I was only planning with a cool off since it was pretty much obvious we both needed it. So I sent her a message before unfriending her in social media telling her I know she's hurting but the way it is now we're both hurting each other so it's better this way. Of course I added that she can message me when she's ready to be a good friend again.
Then she replied. Apparently, she thought I treated her like a slave when that was how I felt she treated me. She also mentioned a lot of things and I thought it's time I also tell her what it was like for me to go to places I didn't even want to go just to please her and to be treated like her personal photographer that I couldn't even enjoy the trip.
In the end, it was clear we have our differences.
The biggest difference though is that she claims she thinks I'm her friend despite treating me like crap with one word messages. I know it's probably my pride speaking that I have other friends and don't need her.
But to be honest, if that is how she treats me then I really don't. And I told her I'm done. And now I'm okay with it.
Breakups (even with a friend) are supposed to be really hurting, gut wrenching where you pour out of your heart and cry. I've been doing that, seeking advice from friends minus the crying. They actually told me to give it time. But that was before I messaged and she replied.
Now I just want her to realize that the reason I don't want to be with her is the same reason for her last breakup. She makes me feel like I have to be someone else when I'm with her. I know I have my issues but I wasn't born to please her and that's why I think it's freeing to stop being friends.
Then she replied. Apparently, she thought I treated her like a slave when that was how I felt she treated me. She also mentioned a lot of things and I thought it's time I also tell her what it was like for me to go to places I didn't even want to go just to please her and to be treated like her personal photographer that I couldn't even enjoy the trip.
In the end, it was clear we have our differences.
The biggest difference though is that she claims she thinks I'm her friend despite treating me like crap with one word messages. I know it's probably my pride speaking that I have other friends and don't need her.
But to be honest, if that is how she treats me then I really don't. And I told her I'm done. And now I'm okay with it.
Breakups (even with a friend) are supposed to be really hurting, gut wrenching where you pour out of your heart and cry. I've been doing that, seeking advice from friends minus the crying. They actually told me to give it time. But that was before I messaged and she replied.
Now I just want her to realize that the reason I don't want to be with her is the same reason for her last breakup. She makes me feel like I have to be someone else when I'm with her. I know I have my issues but I wasn't born to please her and that's why I think it's freeing to stop being friends.
