How do I stop being so sensitive to this?

I have this guy friend who is like a brother to me. Thing is, one of my close friends doesn't like him, and another girl I hang out with but don't really consider her a friend anymore doesn't like him either. Now, I know that if someone says something bad about him, he says he doesn't care. However, it annoys me a lot whenever they say something mean/rude about him. Especially because he's been there for me when they haven't been.

The girl who I'm not really friends with brought up how I don't like one of her friends for no reason, but there is a reason. Anyway, she made it seem like I just dislike people without having an explanation for it. She told two other people this as well...which I don't understand because I never bring up her not liking my guy friend or make her feel crappy for it? And I knew I couldn't say anything back because I'd just be digging myself into a deeper hole.

Anyway, I guess it's just hard hearing people say mean things about him because I care about him a lot. How do I avoid this though?

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FORMERLYbatovn · 56-60, M

I learned many years ago that you are not gonna please everyone, or make everyone happy. Many people in YOUR life are not meant to get along with each other, and thats ok. The best thing you can do is value YOUR opinion of the young man and when others make comments about him, simply ask them to refrain from that in your presence. You will possibly forced to make a choice between friends, and that isnt a reflection on you but on them. The young lady that is no longer considered a friend really has no dog in the fight and her opinion shouldnt carry much, if any weight. At the same time, understand that the person you dont like doesnt have to be a part of your circle either......Ive learned to tolerate those I need to and to be polite but very guarded and reveal nothing to them. I wish you well with this!