How do I deal with a friend I’ve not been getting along with?

I’ve not been getting on with my friend recently and I don’t know what to do about it. We normally see each other once, or twice a week, but I’ve been starting to dread her visits. She’s been really good to me and has been helping me work through some problems for quite some time. Recently, however, she’s been offering her opinion on an area of my life (not that I was asking for her opinion on it!) and it is clear we don’t agree on this area. It is causing real tension between us. She keeps saying she won’t say anymore about it, but it keeps coming up. She has told me several times that she is offended that I won’t that her ‘advice’, but my feeling is that even if I had asked for advice, I wouldn’t be obliged to take it. On top of that she is dyspraxic, so she can get rather irate at times. Basically instead of helping with me with my problems, at times, I have dealing with my problems and an irate friend talking about how offended she is and how anxious I am making her. What do I do?

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Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

Get some space from each other.
You don't have to get into the whole 'what does it mean ?' thing.
Just know that right now, you're no good for each other.

Looking

@Picklebobble2 I’m now in the position where I need her help, so taking a break from her would cause me significant problems. As I mentioned to someone else, we were in the process of arranging for her to be my PA, but recently things have not been working out.

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

@Looking Go careful. Friends and business rarely mix well.
Some folk have trouble discerning where certain boundaries are.

You may have to let her know that if she agrees to your employment terms your relationship will change.

Looking

@Picklebobble2 She had already agreed to things. If she pulls out now I’m in a real bind. I’ve known her a long time now, so this whole situation was unexpected.