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“Worse problems” as in this competitive suffering as opposed to reality? They just sound like they suck tbh. I have serious problems, but I still try and help my friend’s with their issues, because, you know, I’m their friend.
@Phire1 It’s hard to judge without knowing all the details. I have serious problems, but since my friend had their cancer diagnosis I have hardly spoken to them about my own issues. I think it would have been unfair to burden them with my issues, but I don’t feel as close to them as I once did because I can’t be as open with them.
I also have a friend who knows I’ve got serious problems and she still talks about her boyfriend problems with me. I wouldn’t mind, but it’s the same problems over and over (for about two years!), she talks about them for hours on end, even when I try and change the subject, and she never follows my advice. Our conversations seem pointless and banal. That friendship I am ‘re-evaluating’.
I guess I think you still need to talk about your life and your problems to keep the friendship going, but you need be a bit sensitive to how they’re doing.
I also have a friend who knows I’ve got serious problems and she still talks about her boyfriend problems with me. I wouldn’t mind, but it’s the same problems over and over (for about two years!), she talks about them for hours on end, even when I try and change the subject, and she never follows my advice. Our conversations seem pointless and banal. That friendship I am ‘re-evaluating’.
I guess I think you still need to talk about your life and your problems to keep the friendship going, but you need be a bit sensitive to how they’re doing.
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@Looking First, they post about their issues on Facebook. I 90-95% of the time post things I find funny, or an article, or artwork, or music. We have chatted in private for about 3-4 years about many different topics - personal stuff is one of those topics. But, they tended to make comments that seemed insensitive at times... and like it's a competition (for lack of a better way to say it)