Any Advice?

Im a university student in the midwest and honestly Im not bad looking and a lot of people like me. I have a lot of friends and people to go to and things to do. Im stressed occasionally but not all the time. Even with all of that, I come back to my apartment and just feel alone all the time. I dont know why im like this because i have so many options, but i just feel alone and there isnt someone that really makes my loneliness go away.

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BoobooSnafu Best Comment

This is going to sound weird - but it's an 'opposites' thing:

you're a student - your days are filled with people, conversation, learning. It's a highly stimulating environment emotionally , intellectualy and socially.

When you get back to your apartment - it is the opposite.

So imagine, in a way you have been on 'high' stimulus all day....then you come home to none.

It's a case of 'coming down' - having no stimulus feels empty - lonely.

It happens also after travelling/going on holiday/ celebrating something big the day before. It's just a big swing in the emotions, that's all.

Filling your time with something else (a distraction ) is the easiest way to cope. going shopping/ cooking (from scratch) a meal, skyping, gaming, drawing, etc.....this is why some people get hobbies or pets.

Hope this helps.

Mamapolo2016 · F

@BoobooSnafu That's a good answer!

BoobooSnafu

@Mamapolo2016 took me Goddamn YEARS to work this one out. !!!

but since I now understand it.....I've seen it happen in my kids - after birthday parties.(they'd get all weepy for no reason).....my ex....after going on holiday - he'd get all angry and shitty (coz apparently real men don't cry - pfft🙄)
I've seen it in my daughter's friends (who happens be pretty) - and they don't get enough attention.

But thanks.🤗...

.just wanna pass it on. We all go through it. But once you see it....it makes it easier to fix........or at least deal with. you learn that noting is wrong with you.....it's just a temporary REaction.

BoobooSnafu

Thanks for BA. Hope it helps you deal with that hollow feeling you're dealing with. Just don't go getting lost in the down thoughts.....or thinking that there's something wrong. Life is wheel of ups and downs - and you need them both. The low points make you enjoy the high ones when they come along. If you were happy all the time - you would become immune to it.....and lose the ability to enjoy it.

Mamapolo2016 · F

It's important to learn how to entertain yourself. Pick up a cheap guitar or some drawing materials or start keeping a journal.

The ideal life, imo, is one where you have people to go to when you don't want to be alone and private rooms in your head where you can go when you do want to be alone, and the ability to move confortably back and forth between the two.

greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

How about living with roommates?

SW-User

Join a university club.

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