When it came time for my friend to move out of my apartment, I convinced her to try and move all of her stuff and get rid of whatever she didn't need or couldn't store. She's tight on cash, so I believe that is the only real way forward for her financially. She doesn't have a car, so she needs my help.
On January 4th of this year, my friend and I took 4 trips in my car from her storage locker to her new studio apartment to move some shit. I was tired. It sucked.
The day after that, she paid for a truck rental so that me, her, and 2 other friends of hers (John and Alex we'll say) could move the rest of her shit to her new apartment. It was a big storage locker basically brimming with stuff, much of which was dirt cheap wayfair furniture and anime memorabilia. By far the worst was this huge soundproof recording booth that must've weighed about a ton. It breaks down into the floor, the walls, the ceiling, and there's a bunch of foam padding. Still, those individual pieces still weight over a hundred pounds each and we had to carry them.
It takes two trips to get everything she wants moved. The truck is only half full both times, but she is insistent that we don't fill it up the first trip because she wants to have the booth set before certain things are moved in so it's easier for her to work with. We worked all day on it. John is this big, fat indoorsy guy and he's so tired that his arms are visibly failing him by the time he and Alex leave around 4 to return to his home a few hours away. Alex complains that the task at hand is way, way bigger than he expected and I silently agree. I didn't eat lunch, and dinner ended up being taco bell at 8 PM or so, by which time I was sore and lightheaded.
A couple cheap shelves worth $30 each and some pieces of the booth worth $48 total break in transit.
A week later, I help her haul some additional things from my apartment to hers, and she tells me she was angry that we broke stuff but did not want to say it. She said she would have to re-buy the stuff and that defeated the point of calling us instead of hiring movers. I don't respond because I'm still burnt out from the moving process. I felt like it was unreasonable for her to complain since it was such a huge task. But then again, I'm the one who told her to move everything, so I don't really have a right to complain in return.
Another week goes by and she comes to my apartment to sort stuff into boxes and load them into my car. She's insistent that I only pack certain items because she can only organize certain things at a time and doesn't want to stress herself out. I ask her a few times if I can pack a few things after she leaves for the bus because there's a ton of space left in the car, and she says yes (I'm pretty damn sure). We agree that I'll drop them off at her place Tuesday (yesterday) after work. Her apartment is on my way home (sort of) so I figure it'll be convenient. The day comes, and she tells me we need to haul the stuff to the storage unit. She comments that she did not tell me to pack the last few items I packed after she left, which are like, a box of beauty supplies, a small box of random stuff, and a fan about 1 1/2 feet wide.
She asks me to venmo her the $48 for the booth pieces. I agree to do so happily. She suggests that she should ask Alex to chip in for it. I told her not to do that and she agrees. I also put in $4 for a soap pump she left behind.
We finish up around 7 and I take her home. Then, late at night, I get these messages.
I'm conflicted on how to feel about it. On one hand, she seems genuinely appreciative and like she wants to make things workable on my end. I don't think she would do any of this if she didn't feel like she was out of options. But the way she complains about the way I go about things makes me think she still does not understand how big of an undertaking this has been and how much she's been asking for from me. I see messages like this first thing in the morning and I just get a pit in my stomach. I can't wait for this to be over.
I’m sorry, but she is manipulative and draining af..
She should have texted you immediately about “damages” and not waited to spit it all out. Her inserting “I’m sorry I’m SUCH A BuRdEnNnN” is so barf. Like ask what you need and don’t be self deprecating and manipulative.
I understand her wanting to do rhings at her own speed, but if you truly believed she said yes, then you didn’t do anything wrong.
From what I know about you, you are extremely precise. You don’t just do things and assume it’s correct. You do it because it is exactly what was agreed upon.
@deathfairy I should clarify, she did tell us about the damage at the time (and some of it was readily apparent to everyone). I guess I mean to say she brought it up again.
I suggested that moving forward, she just pack everything up here and we move it all to her storage site whenever she's completely done packing it all. That will save me some time as opposed to continuing to haul half loads of stuff.
@Miram I'm not even bothered by the space at this point, I just want this job to be done and dusted.
The 2 boxes were on a shelf in her bedroom, you can easily see them if you open the door. The fan was sitting in the living room (out of the way but clearly there). So it's not as if I was rummaging through her things or anything.
@BlueVeins she is just being entitled and weird. She is lucky. I would throw the rest of her stuff out the window into the garbage as passing time activity.
