I realize that even friends can be seasonal. Some come and go and are in your life for just a season. The Bible mentions that. There's a season for everything. And if they want to go, you must honor that and their decision, without getting ugly. Let them go. Perhaps their purpose was served, whether that was for you or them, that only the Lord knows.
Jesus is my first and best friend, since July, 1973. He always comes first. It reminds me of that Bible verse, which says, 'a friend sticks closer than a brother.' Jesus is always there for me through thick and thin, and loves me from his heart, regardless of what I do or don't do, or how many times I mess up. I know he'll never abandon me. He's always got my back.
Some people look at it as outgrowing each other. I don't, but that's okay. If one wishes to move on from the relationship, and there's no fighting involved that caused the split, let them move on in love, in an amicable manner. Those times can be tough, but at least one would have closure. Respect the other person's decision.
There's really different types of friendships. On the other side of that coin which I mentioned above, you can have a friend that has been with you for several years and then all of a sudden for no good reason, they'll ghost you, when you thought you were both as close as a brother or sister.
If you've tried to give them the benefit of doubt, but they've not come back and answered you for a couple months, then you kind of feel them out again and give them one last try to see where they stand if you're not sure, and then you still don't hear from them for 2 weeks, that's a clear sign they're wanting to move on. Let them. Let them go quietly.
Could be any reason, but I don't play those kind of games where people just up and ghost me. My friend found that out real quick, whom I felt was closer than my own sister. I was quite shocked, but I didn't allow myself to get upset about it, if that's the way she wanted to be. I quietly walked away and honored her decision. I didn't feel she deserved a "why."
We shouldn't beg for people's attention, if that's what they want to do. If they want to leave, then we need to let them leave and move on with our lives and get with friends who will treat us with respect, as we deserve, and are not toxic. No need to get angry about it. It is what it is, and when the red flags say, 'hey, it's time to make changes in your life and find those who will love, support, and encourage you", do so. Nothing wrong with that. That's the healthy way to part. There's no use fussing and fighting and getting each other all upset. Simply let the person go. They've given you a clear sign that is what they desire. I don't take that personally. I look at it as they have a different preference and needs perhaps than I do. And I'm not referring, in my case, to a live-in person.
There's such a thing as not fretting and bringing your own closure. Never let these things affect your health by getting angry over it. This person wanted me to beg her forgiveness for not being available to talk a couple times, when she called me. I don't play that game. And I've not lost a night's sleep over it. One is better off to move on from people like this. Now she knows she overstep my boundaries and I don't play that game.
We don't need to hang on to these type people. There's people within a hundred mile radius of you that will be your friend and treat you as you deserve, so let it go. It just is, what it is. I'm not even hurt. I am surprised, this coming from her, but loving myself, nurturing myself, and keeping myself healthy, is more important than people who are not dependable or fickle.
I like hanging around positive people. People I know I can trust, that are genuine. I look for honesty. I enjoy hanging around down-to-earth people. The faithful ones. The ones that will stick with me through thick and thin. The ones that respect my boundaries and I, theirs. A friend won't use you. They'll do everything to protect you.
I happen to have one really great friend. And in fact the best, and I feel like that's plenty for me. That's not to say others are not welcome, but this friend is super special and I just don't know how one could have a better friend as this. This friend holds the most special place in my heart and will, forever. This person knows who they are. We've been friends since 2019. Spiritual soul friends. I've never had a friend as good as this person. We are forever friends, even into eternity. My love for this friend will never die. I know that.
