Things are changing.
While I was away for Thanksgiving, my friend moved a desk from her storage unit to the living room of my apartment. Her work gave her permission to work from home. The reason has to do with disability accomodations. She has ADHD and they didn't want to pay for noise canceling headphones, so this was the next best thing.
On one hand, this is helpful in like 10 different ways. I won't need to drive her home from work on the days I'm in the office, so I won't have to wait around in the area for her to get off. That saves me like 2 hours a week. It also means she can move away from the area whenever she wants, which will be really useful if I happen to get a new job and move elsewhere before she can find a new job. And of course, it'll save her a shit ton of time sitting on the slow, unreliable buses that this city runs. So overall massive W.
On the other hand, I will miss the alone time I used to have. Her daily commute did give me time to refresh and energize and cook as often as I want. So I do worry that I will be more burnt out if she is here at home around the clock.
She also says it'll be 3 weeks before the credit cards are fully paid off. Huge accomplishment for her and I'm really excited for her. Part of me thinks I should have an ultimatum for her finding a new place after that happens, maybe 3 or 4 months. But then, it would not hurt for her to spend more time here, saving up some money before she starts getting hit with those rent payments. I want the help I've given to lead to actual long-term stability, not merely to prevent the worst of what could have otherwise happened. Besides, having her here has kept me from ever getting lonely.
On one hand, this is helpful in like 10 different ways. I won't need to drive her home from work on the days I'm in the office, so I won't have to wait around in the area for her to get off. That saves me like 2 hours a week. It also means she can move away from the area whenever she wants, which will be really useful if I happen to get a new job and move elsewhere before she can find a new job. And of course, it'll save her a shit ton of time sitting on the slow, unreliable buses that this city runs. So overall massive W.
On the other hand, I will miss the alone time I used to have. Her daily commute did give me time to refresh and energize and cook as often as I want. So I do worry that I will be more burnt out if she is here at home around the clock.
She also says it'll be 3 weeks before the credit cards are fully paid off. Huge accomplishment for her and I'm really excited for her. Part of me thinks I should have an ultimatum for her finding a new place after that happens, maybe 3 or 4 months. But then, it would not hurt for her to spend more time here, saving up some money before she starts getting hit with those rent payments. I want the help I've given to lead to actual long-term stability, not merely to prevent the worst of what could have otherwise happened. Besides, having her here has kept me from ever getting lonely.
