GohantheThird · M
Totally normal what you are feeling, I go through it too. You're feeling that way because you like being dependable, even for people who are clearly undeserving of such loyalty.
Listen to your instincts: sometimes you just have to say no! They will get over it. Hell, they will learn to respect you for it (even if they never admit it). Stick your guns man, maintain your boundaries!
Listen to your instincts: sometimes you just have to say no! They will get over it. Hell, they will learn to respect you for it (even if they never admit it). Stick your guns man, maintain your boundaries!
AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F
Repeat after me, NO! say No! start learning to say it, get comfortable with it! you cannot save everyone. Especially at the expense of your own piece of mind. I've said on here before I choose not to have friends because their problems become my problems and I enjoy my quiet drama free existence. If I dealt with other people my blood pressure would be through the roof. You can support them by being a listening ear and you can love them from afar and no it does not make you a bad friend it makes you smart.
Simulation · 31-35
One thing I learned is that the more I help someone, the more I become more like them. The people in your situation do not seem like people who you want to be. It’s ok to avoid them.
Also by keeping them away from your life, you would have more time and energy attracting people who are actually good for you.
Also by keeping them away from your life, you would have more time and energy attracting people who are actually good for you.
BnBSpringer09 · 26-30, F
@Simulation This is what I'm thinking as well. I really want to attract better friends, and I don't want to be dragged down. I've found that this has happened in the past in similar situations.
Simulation · 31-35
@BnBSpringer09 yeah you got this!
From my own experience, friendships that drag me down can leave a ‘residue’ in me. If they try to connect with me again I might get old feelings again, feel an emotional ‘pull’, or even start thinking about reasons to reconnect. But these feelings and reasons are just part of the residue and aren’t actually good to be stirred up again. Resist any urge to give in and fill your life with better things and eventually the residue fades 🙂.
From my own experience, friendships that drag me down can leave a ‘residue’ in me. If they try to connect with me again I might get old feelings again, feel an emotional ‘pull’, or even start thinking about reasons to reconnect. But these feelings and reasons are just part of the residue and aren’t actually good to be stirred up again. Resist any urge to give in and fill your life with better things and eventually the residue fades 🙂.
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Summer2025 · F
well it's because you are being a bad friend and yes you are very out of line i hope you never need them for anything
BnBSpringer09 · 26-30, F
@Summer2025 Can you elaborate on why, please?
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
This person knows damn well how to make you feel guilty.
If your not sure about it ask yourself this -would you treat people the way this person treats you?
If the answer is no it's really all the justification you need to cut off ties.
Why does this person have any right to make your life miserable?
If your not sure about it ask yourself this -would you treat people the way this person treats you?
If the answer is no it's really all the justification you need to cut off ties.
Why does this person have any right to make your life miserable?
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