Money spending habits and random gossip 😂
My best friend spends her money on such useless things 😂 I mean I get it and I’m not “actually” judging her, which is why I don’t say anything about it to her. And when she shares her new stuff, I act excited for her too because I feel like it’s not my place to comment on it anyway 😁 but she bought about 7 handbags in the past year or so and I’m TIRED of acting excited 😂😂 Like girl, I walk around with 10 euro handbags for a year to go to work, you’re sharing with the wrong person 😂
She also spent like 1k on facial treatments and products but she told me not to tell her partner 🥲 I don’t support keeping secrets from your husband/boyfriend. I don’t out her of course but why is it even necessary to keep it a secret 🤷🏻♀ She also doesn’t let him know when she receives a bonus from work so she can spend it on shopping and stuff like this.
It made me realize that we’ve both changed a lot compared to when we met eachother around the age of 19 (we’re almost 34 now).
My mom tells me she always had the feeling my friend was more of a snob. And then that made me think that maybe I was just unaware of it before. But now it has become more clear and she started to give more snobbish reactions too that were uncalled for.
For example, I live in a small village where a lot of people are just struggling to get by. We invited my friend and her partner and their daughter over to our place when there was a fair going on. We both have a kid around the age of 5-6 so it’s fun for them to go. I had to persuade her to go and when we sat down for a drink while the kids had fun, she said: “oh my gosh the people who walk around here really are marginal. How can you stand living here and mingling with them 😂”.
Note - she lives in a village too but closer to a city. It’s actually the same there 😂 and who cares, it doesn’t make her better than whatever other person.
They also bought a new house about 2 years ago, a nice newly built villa and she and her bf didn’t tell other friends the “good news” or invited them on a house visit. We were invited because we could buy one too if we wanted to. Afterwards she told me it’s because they don’t want to boast about it to their friends who could never afford such a house.
I get it somewhat, but the result is that their friend circle gossips about it more now because they treat them “differently” than before they bought the new house.
People are not always as jealous as they made them out to be. I don’t care about their house or what they bought 🥲 but maybe it’s easy for me to say because I have my own good life going.
Whatever the case, she didn’t use to be this fixated on stuff like this.
I sometimes feel like she’s only still friends with me despite the “small house - marginal village living - very active and mischievous son vs their daughter angel” because my husband and me actually make more money than both of them.
I guess my point is that I never considered that, weather some friendships last or not, could also be determined by material stuff and means.
I have friends who are far richer than us and they don’t show it at all 😁 Feeling wise, I feel closer to that friend now than my bestie over the past couple of years 🙈 I guess this is why my parents and my husband his parents always warned us that friendships that last beyond a decade are very very rare.
She also spent like 1k on facial treatments and products but she told me not to tell her partner 🥲 I don’t support keeping secrets from your husband/boyfriend. I don’t out her of course but why is it even necessary to keep it a secret 🤷🏻♀ She also doesn’t let him know when she receives a bonus from work so she can spend it on shopping and stuff like this.
It made me realize that we’ve both changed a lot compared to when we met eachother around the age of 19 (we’re almost 34 now).
My mom tells me she always had the feeling my friend was more of a snob. And then that made me think that maybe I was just unaware of it before. But now it has become more clear and she started to give more snobbish reactions too that were uncalled for.
For example, I live in a small village where a lot of people are just struggling to get by. We invited my friend and her partner and their daughter over to our place when there was a fair going on. We both have a kid around the age of 5-6 so it’s fun for them to go. I had to persuade her to go and when we sat down for a drink while the kids had fun, she said: “oh my gosh the people who walk around here really are marginal. How can you stand living here and mingling with them 😂”.
Note - she lives in a village too but closer to a city. It’s actually the same there 😂 and who cares, it doesn’t make her better than whatever other person.
They also bought a new house about 2 years ago, a nice newly built villa and she and her bf didn’t tell other friends the “good news” or invited them on a house visit. We were invited because we could buy one too if we wanted to. Afterwards she told me it’s because they don’t want to boast about it to their friends who could never afford such a house.
I get it somewhat, but the result is that their friend circle gossips about it more now because they treat them “differently” than before they bought the new house.
People are not always as jealous as they made them out to be. I don’t care about their house or what they bought 🥲 but maybe it’s easy for me to say because I have my own good life going.
Whatever the case, she didn’t use to be this fixated on stuff like this.
I sometimes feel like she’s only still friends with me despite the “small house - marginal village living - very active and mischievous son vs their daughter angel” because my husband and me actually make more money than both of them.
I guess my point is that I never considered that, weather some friendships last or not, could also be determined by material stuff and means.
I have friends who are far richer than us and they don’t show it at all 😁 Feeling wise, I feel closer to that friend now than my bestie over the past couple of years 🙈 I guess this is why my parents and my husband his parents always warned us that friendships that last beyond a decade are very very rare.
