Looking to beat social awkwardness
I am extremely socially awkward. Are there any tips and tricks people have to be more confident?
22-25, M
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Listening and observe. It takes time to learn the nuances. Different types of people have different expectations. You can learn by observing how they are with one another, what gets good results and what gets unpleasant reactions.
Keep a journal of your observations. Writing helps the memory.
Cultivate a genuine interest in others.
Never assume that others might wish to be treated as you do. We are each different. Always ask what people want or need.
Know your boundaries, assert them, and respect those of others. That means saying no when you feel a contraction or internal negative response, and respecting the no or any sign of reluctance or disinterest in others.
When others ask, keep responses to 45 words or less. Most people have a very short attention span. They will ask more if they want to draw you out.
Keep a journal of your observations. Writing helps the memory.
Cultivate a genuine interest in others.
Never assume that others might wish to be treated as you do. We are each different. Always ask what people want or need.
Know your boundaries, assert them, and respect those of others. That means saying no when you feel a contraction or internal negative response, and respecting the no or any sign of reluctance or disinterest in others.
When others ask, keep responses to 45 words or less. Most people have a very short attention span. They will ask more if they want to draw you out.