How much patience and control do you have?

Sometimes I have alot and something I don't have it at all. I do feel like writing someone. It's very tempting but didn't write her after she just kicked me away without saying a word. I thought for asking someone how they are is tempting. But need to change this habit because I end turning hurting myself. When someone doesn't cares to reply or write you for more then a year just leave them.