Being a good friend

How do you do it? How do you make genuine friendships at almost 30 years old? I haven’t spoken to anyone that would call me a friend in months, nor have they reached out to check in (or vice versa) so all I do is interact with them through a like on a tweet or something.

I want to be a good friend too, but I just feel so one dimensional as a person that I just invalidate my own value as a friend. I feel like I can't hold a conversation with someone if it doesn’t have to do with something I’m interested in or something I can relate to, all I’m truly interested in are gaming and the gaming industry, movies, anime, and music. I also feel that being interested in only those things makes me childish, but I simply cannot hold a conversation about anything like world topics or politics. I [b][i]AM[/i][/b] informed about such issues, but you couldn’t get a good discussion out of me about any of it.

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Casheyane · F

I kinda feel the same. Hard to make new friends if you don't go out often and you're a young professional or just not social.

I have my interests like kdramas and fanfics and fun comics and detective novels. And while there are plenty who like the same stuff, I'd like a deeper sense of connection. It's a challenge finding people who stay in your life long enough to earn trust, and would willingly stay even after.

A friend of mine said that people only stay in your life for as long as you give them what they need. Masochistic or sadistic or just human? Idk.

My old self knew that to make friends, you have to be sincerely interested and care for people. That made me a good friend. But I had lived long enough to realize those friends you make out of that are not necessarily good friends to you.

So when I realized that and reciprocated based on how I feel they treated me, the friendship drifted apart. Because I realized I wanted more. To feel safe and myself too in a friendship.