Does anyone else find it difficult to keep up with others?

I don’t know what it is but I am terrible with keeping up with old friends. I know it’s not difficult to send a quick ‘hello’ or ask how a friend is, but it is all so draining and I feel like a shitty turd because I’m not inclined to.

Just recently, I was asked to reference three close friends that have known me over the last 7 years— people who could vouch for the good citizen that I am… and I couldn’t name anyone.

Do I know people? Yeah. I was close friends with a few people once upon a time but the years keep passing and I’m just not checking in as a friend would. I feel silly for having allowed that to happen because now I can’t even say someone knows me, what I’ve been up to or where they can find me.

HannibalMontanimal · 26-30, M

I have people who I used to talk to in high school or whatever but they were just people I used to get high with so they weren’t like Important relationships and whatnot so I just think of it as like “they went their way and I went my own way” cuz most of them living totally different lives now some have families and shit so it’s weird I can’t just like resume the relationship when it’s been like 10 years

SW-User

yeah, I’ve got a friend who’s been texting me every couple of weeks for 2 odd years since leaving university, asking to meet for coffee. I still haven’t said yes, and I feel bad.

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

That is normal. I think it makes more sense if you contact them once a year or once in a few years out of genuine interest than writing to them every month because you feel obliged to.