This girl I dated is with one of my best friends now

I'm not really sure how to feel about it honestly. That same friend used to tease me about her so I didn't think he even liked her at all.

I really tried to make things work with her but things didn't end well. Plus my friend & I have never been the types to even think about dating each other's exes. We've been friends for many years & that's always just been understood.

But at the same time, I have no feelings for her anymore & I'm actually glad things didn't work out. I knew she wasn't a good fit for me so it never bothered me that we ended it. Plus my friend hasn't been in a serious relationship ever since his baby mama years ago so for him to be in a relationship is a big deal & I'm happy for him.

I'll never make an issue of it or anything, but part of me still thinks it's weird. Perhaps because he never told me or talked to me about it.. I only found out through his mom. I thought he would've at least acknowledged it or told me something 🤷

I'm not really looking for advice or anything, I just wanted to get that off my chest because I haven't talked about it

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Carlisle · F

Sorry to hear that. That must be rough.
If my friends date my exes
They would have to understand that I will be seeing them less. I don’t want a constant reminder of the past if I’m moving forward.

You sound like a great guy. You can only do your best and if people around you are letting you down it’s probably best to surround yourself with different ones. Ones that make you feel good.

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@Carlisle I honestly haven't seen him ever since but not because they're dating, just because I'm going through a phase where I want to learn to be comfortable being alone & rely on myself better.

Luckily my relationship with her was short lived & I've been with other girls after her so I don't feel any lingering attachment. But its only been 6 months since we split so I only hope him or her don't treat me any differently because of our past.

Thank you though I appreciate the input

TheUnderdog

I think your being very mature about the situation and to be honest i would struggle with that, but i am a little sensitive and emotional about things, I also find it hard to be in a relationship and am much more secure being single

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@TheUnderdog I can't lie when I first found out it bothered me quite a bit. I kept thinking about it for days but the more I thought about it, the less it bothered me. I honestly think he's a better fit for her than I am. Not saying anything negative about myself, but their personalities just fit better. I'm an affectionate person & she just wasn't

TheUnderdog

@ChiefJustWalks I get that too, if affection is one sided its not going to work, I've also had that in a relationship

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@TheUnderdog I agree. When one person is affectionate & the other isn't it almost never works out. I would've felt like I was just settling

Chickie · F

Not my place to say this but I would cut them out

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@Chickie if she actually meant anything to me I would cut them out too. But I don't hold grudges & I wish them both the best.. I just wish he would've at least talked to me

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