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Long story short my best friend of 5years mother passed away and the funeral is in a week, I've been having money troubles, in debt to family members, I've got a broken bed, income hasn't been great, just enough to feed myself, keeps my lights on and get a new bed, she's grieving heavily but when I met her the other day, she even offered to pay, so I asked her to pay for my travelles as she lives 2hrs away and it cost me £35 on travel alone just to see her, but I feel bad but I'm also broke and also said in return I will pay for journey up next time, do you think that's okay?
I feel so bad but I'm genuinely broke and part of me doesn't want to go because I don't want to burden her with money, I've never liked funerals and I'm missing work I can't work 4days including the night before because I need to leave at6/7am if I want to make it on time, I'm genuinely confused on what to do, of course I want and know it's important to be there but I'm also pushing my income back to go to this for a few hours, I don't mean to sound selfish or anything, but life still goes on and things are not financially good for me right now, let alone emotionally.
Yes I know I know, it's not all about me there's her, her family and friends, I get it, I don't know, I hate funerals, I hate goodbyes, but it's also the last time I will get to go?

Ps. Please don't be nasty in the comments it will be removed, I can assure you of that.
If you can't, then be honest and stay within your means. I would not try to force my friend into troubles if they simply couldn't afford it. If she is able to pay (and isn't jeopardizing her bills for you) then this is what friendships are for.

It would be worse that you are able to attend and you abandon it after all that effort she is going through to make you able to go. Honor her effort, allow her to pay (even if it is hard because you clearly care about her), and go. Go do what you should do and don't look back :)
Hikikomoribabe99 · 22-25, F
@Babylon she's fine with it, money isn't her issue right now as she's said, which is beneficial to me because i just might get to go
I'm not looking forward to that morning or that journey not one bit, considering I made that hellish journey a few days ago, and at 6am it is not the one AT ALL but I suppose I will go, out of respect for her mother which I really liked and someone that was kind to me and as my duty as friend, so I will just think about that👍
BananaBrown · 41-45, F
I can understand how you would be worried about burdening your friend, but I really don’t think she would see it the same. You said she offered to pay for you to come, so let her. If she is truly your best friend, then she knows you are struggling financially, which is why she wants to pay. Clearly she needs your support right now after such a terrible loss. I’m sure she is just grateful to know you’ll be there with her. 🙂
None of us like funerals.

One thing that I have learned from the Covid19 pandemic is that not attending them creates a weird void where it feels like the deceased is going to walk in at any time. I still haven't really come to terms with the sudden loss of my second cousin because we weren't able to attend her funeral (Covid19 restrictions).

If you can get there, go and pay your last respects. It's better than the feeling in limbo like I am doing.
SW-User
It is okay. You can't change where you are when your friend needs you.
MartaSpain · 36-40, F
Sorry to Heat that :(
Please, message me :*
SW-User
I wouldn't go.
BigGuy2 · 26-30, M
If it's non-consensual, it's illegal

 
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