Nothing is permanent even virtual SW friends. Some left even without saying goodbye.

@PerfectionOfTheHeart Agreed fully. Just hoping too nothing worse had happened like a tragic accident for one’s sudden silence

@PerfectionOfTheHeart It is even worse when it happens in real life.
Like when we were kids and would go to our "best friend's" house one day just to find they had moved out.

@Kcmzeph That worry is natural, but don’t let your mind build up unknowns into something that’ll only end up robbing you of the light in the moment before you. Just stick with telling yourself they’re fine and taking the clearer breaths they needed right now because the odds lean more towards that anyway. Send them a silent smile, a little extra light in case it’s needed, and keep moving forward. All you can do.

@CestManan Gosh, the real life vanishing acts really can mess with your mind and heart. And when you’re too young to really know how to process such a deeply felt hurt…it ends up shaping you in a way.

@PerfectionOfTheHeart agreed 100%. I think if there is a genuine connection that person that is leaving should say something and not just ghost. I am tired of that.

@iamonfire696 I feel ya, but people have their reasons. We tend to do what we feel we must, even if it’s not seen as the right thing to do in the eyes of others. Those who truly cared for you…they feel regret in leaving without a word being spoken. I’d [i]like[/i] to think they do anyway and if there is no regret or sadness from that then it’s very telling of the relationship had. But for your own peace you can’t diminish them because they did what they felt they had to do. I’m not fond of such a thing, but first and foremost I respect the journey of others and if another decides I’m not to be a part of it for a couple of chapters or for the rest of the story altogether, then I have to be okay with that decision because screw the darkness that comes otherwise. People will do so many things in this life that have nothing to do with us but can affect us just the same simply because we care. That’s why we have to take great care of ourselves. People prove they’re going to take care of themselves by walking away when needed so naturally those affected by that act also have to look out for themselves by how they respond to it…and how we respond to it determines how much inner peace we end up having.

@PerfectionOfTheHeart I honestly don’t agree with that. If you have formed a connection with someone the right and decent thing to do it tell the person you are leaving. When someone leaves without a word it shows their true colours and you know that the connection you had meant nothing to be thrown away without a second thought.

@iamonfire696 I respect that and agree with you, but it’s a mindset that festers too much darkness and contempt in me and really destroys the light that I’m thankful to have built and shared with that person for a period of time. The world taught me a long time ago that it owes me nothing, and that includes nearly everyone who occupies it. It’s why I’ll never expect much from others and forcibly transforming myself into that person brings so much less headache due to less expectations alone. Expectations are…damn, they can be the root of hatred, both internal and external. [i]This[/i] is who I’ve chosen to be and the responses I now have brings the light, love, forgiveness, enlightenment, and peace needed and deserved to carry on my path.

@PerfectionOfTheHeart I am not there yet but I am glad you are.

@PerfectionOfTheHeart couldn’t agree with your original reply to this post. The sting, the adjustments, and the hopes they are enjoying their real lives more. I actually think it stings more when they are still here and chose to forge that new connection and you feel personally demoted.

@Ambroseguy80 Ah, man. That hurts more than just vanishing. My brain does this thing where it’ll replay phrases said that completely goes against that blatant demotion and at the same time tries to play the “you’re not good enough” card. I’d like to say I’m too evolved now for that to be a thing, but I’m apparently not. It’s why actions > words is such a thing for me in all areas of my life. I love information though. Even those with stings behind them. It enables me to adjust accordingly and realign the focus that may have gotten a little skewed.

@PerfectionOfTheHeart [quote] I love information though. Even those with stings behind them. It enables me to adjust accordingly and realign the focus that may have gotten a little skewed.[/quote]

You’re way ahead of the game with that good attitude.

@PerfectionOfTheHeart You are such a sweetheart my friend. A true gem.

@Livingwell 🙏🏻