Are there any people here who have intrigued you, to whom you haven’t reached out ?
Not romantically necessarily, but in friendship ?
Occasionally my lifelong shyness gets in the way, even online. I have long term friends here whom I adore (and you know who you are 🤗) but once in awhile I’ll see someone new with whom I wish I could share a virtual cup of coffee and just talk…
There were a very few people here whom I was really interested for and I tried to become friends with but they were not interested and so it didn't work out.
I just have one good online friend here and I have decided that this one must be enough for me. Quality over quantity.
But probably I might have the same predisposition so as you: I am very shy. This might be one reason too that I have no contact to other users here and that I have especially in real life no friends neither. 🤔
However: I wish you good luck with finding still some nice people here. 🙂
It’s interesting because most of my friends here are people I met on EP. There, we wrote stories and shared and connected over mutual experiences, desires, interests.
Here, I haven’t really found many who intrigue me or whom I want to get to know better. I’ve met a few, but it’s rare. Most of what I see posted outside of my circle is inane, vapid nonsense, and that’s of no interest to me.
When I do venture outside my circle, if a post interests me, I’ll comment. If someone’s posts or comments intrigue me, I’ll comment and/or reach out in a pm, but it’s rare.
You are a great and wonderful friend Bijou. You were one of the first to welcome me to SW over 3 years ago. You're a wonderful person and friend. Thank you for being you!! 🤗💜
Ha! I've crossed a parking lot to introduce myself to someone who stands out of in a crowd. I have to say I'm very uninhibited when it comes to talking to strangers. Though at times I have started conversations with those I catch staring at me, to break the ice.
I am shy as well,good with people I have known longer,but don't reach out here as much as on EP. I run out of interesting things to say as well. In real life you can be quite in each other's company sometimes.
Yes. Both online and off, I've often been hesitant to reach out to someone who intrigues me in some way. I figure it's usually been because of my own insecurities, when I haven't. Although I [i]have[/i] reached out to you in various ways, I haven't told you some things I wanted to. How much I've felt when you've commented about the grievous losses you've experienced, or that dark place.
On a lighter note...those few times you've shared an old picture of yourself that I saw, I wanted to say how 'physically' beautiful you were, [b]are[/b]. I thought if I did, you'd feel obligated to thank me for saying something you had little control over, as opposed to your inner beauty.
There are definitely some people here I find intriguing. I do not necessarily want to be friends with them (although I’m not averse to it), but I would love to get some insight into their psyche and ask why they post the things they do.
It takes courage for me to comment let alone ask for someone to talk to. People tend to think me outgoing and gregarious but I'm really not. I don't think I will ever send an unsolicited message to anyone, no matter how interesting they seem to be.
There have been in the past. However, I've developed trust issues and anxiety becoming close to anyone new at this place. The past around here had its impact on my ways being a part of this community/site have developed.
I have one handful of people whom I hav befriended. I would include the few friends I ended up with on my previous account. But I'm not pushing for it.
IRL, I’m pretty quiet. I write a lot better than I talk, so I feel at a disadvantage IRL. Usually what happens is that an extrovert decides they like me, and invites me to stuff, and that’s how I end up having a circle of friends.
@SmartKat That’s exactly so for me as well. IRL I attract extroverts and that’s who most of my offline friends are. I’m more at ease online with new people because I can compose my thoughts and write them out. Most of my friends here (like you and Sciguy) came over with me from EP.
Every now and then, I think I'll see a fellow musician and approach them. Or, someone will make an obscure reference that I recognize and that piques my interest. I use caution when approaching females, because I'm not here for hookups.
My interests are usually musical. I avoid politics/religion because my views are all over the place. If I truly get to know someone, I usually enjoy their personal values.
I'll admit to sometimes being jittery when DMing someone, because the outcome here can be unpredictable.
@bijouxbroussard You and I might not always fall on the same side of an issue, but I promise you that I will always [i]listen[/i], and I suspect you'd do the same. Respect. 🤗
