This post may contain Mildly Adult content.
Mildly AdultUpset
Only logged in members can reply and interact with the post.
Join SimilarWorlds for FREE »

Ending a 12 year friendship.

A close friend lost both his parents.
I was there for him at the funeral and after.
Now he's become very clingy.
We would normally hangout every 2-3 months.
Now he wants to talk on the phone and text alot.
I was ok with it at first because I wanted to be there for him.
He's always been a little flirty but nothing that made me uncomfortable.
I would just ignore it.

But recently he said he had a dream where I had his kid.
It made me want to puke.
Before this he asked me 3 times to be his roommate.
He wanted me to sleep over...I did 1 time just to make sure he was ok.
I have mental health issues and need my space.
Before all this he said he had 2 passes to a hotel.he wanted me to go with him. I declined 3 times before he stopped.

Another time he was laughing because I didn't feel comfortable with him coming into my home.(I only let men I'm dating into my home for safety reasons.)

I'm becoming annoyed because when I've established a boundary about him being pushy he just acts like its nothing.

I'm slowly taking distance, not answering phone calls and not going out with him.

I know if I try and communicate he's just going to act like it's all a joke.
BalmyNites · F
I would just take a break, you don’t have to end the friendship

If it was just a short while ago he lost his parents, he’s still grieving & people do strange things

Put some space between you both & see how you feel once he’s sorted himself out 💜
dale74 · M
Maybe you should tell him that you think you needs some psychological counseling before y'all could ever move further this would at least get him to talk to a shrink and if you are both doing shrink stuff you would be able to explain to the shrink that you're not interested in them as anything more than a friend this could get him the true help he really needs. He also need to be careful because somebody that's been through that quite a bit ordeal could also be suicidal
Always trust yourself first. You know this person really well, this isn't like taking a chance on someone you just met. You are doing what you need to do to protect yourself.
Maybe--- saying you have problems of your own might back him off a bit. You have problems but you don't want to get bogged down discussing the problems right now.
plungesponge · 41-45, M
His brain has gone into make-some-kids-before-I-die mode. If you're not interested in him, just move on. Real guy/girl friends don't flirt a little bit, that just means that one person is attracted
SkeetSkeet · 100+, F
People grieve differently. I'm sure he'll look back at this years later and feel some time of way. 12 years is a long time to end a friendship especially when someone is going through such a hard time. Give yourself space. He's just looking for ways to fill a void.
Wiseacre · F
I feel sad for this guy...he needs a counsellor.
yeronlyman · 51-55, M
He needs help

You need distance

Post Comment
100,000+ people following
Personal Stories, Advice, and Support
New Post
Associated Forums Topic Members