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Advice needed

I am getting really uncomfortable about my friend's intentions. She seems overly interested in my boyfriend. She is always asking about him and he had been away for a few days. She phoned me asking was he back and could she meet up with the both of us. I said no cos I wanted some alone time with him. I had seen her only the previous night also.
When I have invited her along, she seems to be overly flirtatious and I am getting fed up. I don't want her along at all when he is there and the way she is behaving is killing my friendship with her.
She once admitted that she thinks "all is fair in love and war" and would make a play for another woman's boyfriend or even husband. Her current boyfriend is someone who was previously with a former friend of hers, and she is now not happy with him.
So...I don't want her along at all when I am with him, and the way she keeps asking about him is making me decidedly uncomfortable. It's making me feel anxious and depressed. I like to see her otherwise, but quite often when she is with me on my own she makes phone calls to other people and seems distracted. I have asked a couple of my boyfriends friends what they think and to tell me if am just being paranoid, and they said I am not and to be very wary.
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Moonstar14 · 56-60, F
As an update on this, my boyfriend was away a few days. The day he was back my friend rang up and asked was he back and if she could come out with us. As you can imagine, that made me feel more worried than ever. I said we needed alone time, but really I want the alone time to be all the time.
My trouble is I don't trust her. I have big trust issues. I had a previous friend try to steal a previous boyfriend of mine and when she couldn't get him she turned hateful towards me. Said I was not as pretty, slim or intelligent as her. Then she turned against me completely.
I veer between thinking this friend is trying to steal my boyfriend to thinking maybe I am just insecure myself and she just wants company, but how do I know that? She herself said she would go after any attached man she liked it makes me feel very stressed having her along.Should I raise these concerns to her?
Aside from these things I get on well with her. Can I somehow say I don't want her along and blame it on my own under confidence...because I do feel under confident in her presence. Looks wise, she is everything I am not (stunning) and I don't really understand shy she doesn't ever meet any guys who are really into her.