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Axelerator There is truth in that.
The less you expect, the more you get. And there is so much one can do being a part of the collective in getting others to actively change their thinking. It is always better to focus on oneself most.
The only problem with most shiitposting is that it can desensitize us. There is the mute to help me ignore what disinterest me.
So that really does not bug me nor influence me because it is a "can". Lot of people need distractions and it's not always destructive.
What bothered me at the time was the shallowness displayed in serious matters. Perhaps because I have been dragged into it and there was an associated feeling of betrayal. What bothered me were reactions that don't rise above tribal aggression and the validation that seems to follow despicable actions based on gender and online friendships. Validation of harassment, and fast dopamine fixes at the expense of someone else's well being.
Click, like, agree, praise..repeat. no questions asked.
We all do it to an extent.
There is also no concept of true growth. People pride themselves in having "lives" away from here but what good are those "lives" and experiences without any reflection of them in the choices they make here and how they conduct themselves.
Desiring reaffirmation alone without being doubted and more importantly without self doubt, how can that drive a person to lead a "great" life anywhere?
A little portion of self doubt is healthy and necessary.
We all make mistakes. I am yet to see many here owe their side without pointing elsewhere. And I am yet to see people stop enabling it.
If I fuk up, I will admit it, apologize and move on. And if I can do that growing up in the context I have, so can everyone else.
Speaking of which there is something I am still trying to wrap my head around and it's not just about this place. It is communities in general.
Even my stance towards them criticizing and feeling in opposition, I unfortunately feel adds to these issues that can simply be solved by a little will.
People fall back on group power seeking out something that they can't do by themselves. If we as group (even humans in general) believed we can only be as strong as our weakest most despicable link and actively attempted to lift that link/person into better human, perhaps there is more potential in that than actively excluding, or encouraging for the safety of belonging, or walking out of the group entirely because we take issue with how such individual conducted themselves and how they were supported in it.
It is that potential that often takes me away from my solitude. That hope of something better for us as a collective.
There is selfishness in loving being alone.
