I think it's sexually exciting to lose to a girl. I love to feel her become aggressive towards me as she realizes she's winning. When it's clear that I am losing, it stimulates her to defeat me even more completely with the way she pins me, and I just let go and let it happen. If she likes hurting me a little as part of the defeat process, then I relax my efforts so she can do to me what gives her the most pleasure.
I think it's fair to receive pressure points on my neck or a sleeper hold, so I go out to make the winning process more complete for her.