Your words: “Be careful of what you ask for. Sometimes she may end up enjoying the other men more than you” are very provocative to me…
I think most men who have the fantasy of their woman “hotwifing” are aware that her “enjoying the other men more than you” is a possibility/maybe even probability but I venture to guess that not many men ahead-of-time “search their souls” to think about how they would feel/react if that happened to be the case after their woman hotwifed and whether he/they as a couple were secure enough “to go there” with respect to starting hotwifing.
