does kneeling for a dom mean the same as submitting

@dominateofyou You know that a dom has to make decisions that promote good health, not only for his submissive, but for himself, too. That's why I never accepted another submissive at my feet - not because I couldn't do it... but because it wasn't in her best interests to serve me. I am sick and I can't guarantee that I will be able to get out of bed from one day to the next.

It's not always a bad thing to hold off if your gut tells you "This is not your girl"... like I did. The door is still open for you and you would be better off looking for the right fit rather than settling for a submissive that you can work with. If you at least have your basic requirements in place, like "No other Dom/mes unless both agree to it prior" (It's a sound rule to have, given your work and family commitments - a lot of the time, the submissives don't think about how much behind the scenes communication goes into getting on the same page and you really don't want to be wasting your energy overruling stupid rules that are ultimately harmful for your submissive... again), you can at least build on the rest instead of trying to cram a truck engine into a Prius.

As a dom, you shouldn't be competing to keep your subs attention... I mean, I'm pretty much a one guy sub and I expect the same from the girl that I'd be putting so much of myself into in return. It's not a big ask, given that the ups and downs affect doms just as much as they do subs. Loyalty in return for loyalty feels fair to me.

@HootyTheNightOwl some times the relationships between a dom and sub has lots of ups and downs i agree a sub should not be trying to serve 2 doms as she ends up confused who to listen to and who to serve and all the time she has to spend between then the quality of her submission suffers.

@dominateofyou Exactly - and it's frustrating for the dom to see some of the idiotic things the dimdoms put in place... especially when you know enough to see that it's harmful and dangerous for the sub, but she won't listen to sound logic and reasoning.

Even when I got inadvertent instruction from a dom that I wasn't serving, it took me a while to get back into serving the dom who owned me comfortably. I had to go right back to basics and get used to his language and mannerisms all over again... on the whole, it was easier for me to just avoid everything that looked like instruction and my former dom supported me with that.

To this day, I still feel like that is best for me, should I ever return to the lifestyle... however, I would also be looking to hand over some rights to other members of my man's family - purely so that they can step in and issue me with certain instruction to control my medical conditions if he is 2+ hours away from me. It would only apply regarding medical situations, though for obvious reasons. Everything else would go through him.