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Brain fog is so bad

So i woke up this morning and I had completely forgotten that the boys we're on vacation with joel's x wife. I went in their room to check on them And they were both gone! I completely freaked out and was about to call the police, because I had thought somebody had taken them when buddy came into the room, got my phone away from me and calmed me down. Not a great way to start the morning.

I miss my boys
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Mamapolo2016 · F Best Comment
When my 16 year old daughter went to work for her McDonald's shift after school on a winter’s day, after my afternoon run driving schoolbus I took a nap on the couch.

When I woke, it was dark. I made coffee and when I glanced out the window of the driveway, her.car.was.not.there. I lost it in a New York minute and raced to her room. No daughter.

I called everyone I knew she knew. “She’s not here. Have you seen her?” Everyone who answered had not seen her.

You see, I thought it was 6 in the morning. I too decided to call the police but my phone rang first. It was her best friend, returning my call.

“Mom, what’s going on?”

“Where is A? Do you know?”

“She’s at work. She works until ten.”

“In the morning?”

A lengthy pause. “Mom, it’s 6:40 pm. Suppertime.”

That pause was mine. “Oh.”

Partly brain fog, yes. But mostly parental instinct.

When Mom or Dad can’t find their child, and they DON’T freak out, that’s the red flag.
Cigarguys · 41-45, C
@Mamapolo2016 thank you that makes me feel a little better.
@Cigarguys The adrenaline dump takes some time. What causes the madness is that when you are frightened and the fight or flight instinct kicks in, there’s nothing to fight and nothing to flee from. Your body is screaming DO SOMETHING and you would if you knew what to do. Long before rational thought is possible, your body chemicals have taken over the thought process and you can see nothing except that very terrifying thing…empty beds.

You are by no means alone. Adrenaline causes a lot of problems. Fights, going on a mad flight from a traffic stop, shooting at shadows at your door, screaming for no visible reason.

In our genetic history, adrenaline was quite useful. It helps you run faster, fight harder. These days, not so much.

Be gentle with yourself. That was a scary time and your bodily mechanisms kicked in. When the threat has passed, the adrenaline takes time to exit. Then there’s an intense weariness and often, depression. You’re suddenly not a super hero with nowhere to go.

Decades ago I was driving home from a baby shower when a vehicle going in the other direction swerved sharply at my car. I jerked the wheel, dropped into a ditch and before it was over, rolled over three times. The car was totaled, the only salvageable parts the trunk lid and the battery. I didn’t need a Bandaid. I crawled out through the window and the police arrived pretty soon.

I don’t remember how I got home. And I could not stop moving, pacing the house, sitting down then jumping up. I didn’t sleep at all that night and the next day. My body was not hurt at all, but adrenaline was shouting WE’RE GOING TO DIE.

Adrenaline doesn’t know when to quit.

GoFish ·
aww they'll be back soon enough
GoFish ·
@Cigarguys oh wow that is awhile
Cigarguys · 41-45, C
@GoFish they are in Omaha. So far, they've been to the zoo, a water park, they're going to a baseball game and a few other adventures. I'm glad they're having fun but I'm ready for them to come home
I miss my cuddle bug in my tiny tornado
GoFish ·
@Cigarguys awww yeah ☺ sounds like they are staying busy ☺
Im so glad your buddy was there and was able to calm you down. I know how important routine is so them being gone is totally throwing that off. I can’t wait till Wednesday and they are back home with you. I know how much you miss them. Give yourself some grace and patience during the rest of their trip with Joel’s ex. 🤗

 
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