is it ' not normal' to have an extremely close bond with your mother

that is the bond me and my mother always had, since the day i was born, i was the only son, and my mum over-mothered me, spoiled me and just kept me very close to her....we have always been extremely close...and recently a woman on a helpline i talked to, when i told her how i am with my mother said ' she thinks that is quite different, as she hasn't heard of any other mother and sons having such a close bond with their mother '?

and when this helpline woman told me that, it made me feel ' weird ' like ' not normal '' dysfunctional' or ' abnormal' or not healthy even? and i got worried a bit.......my mum phones me 4 x a day and has always done everything for me when she was a younger woman.

even all my cousins, from the info i know and what i've heard in the family, don't have such an extreme close bond with their mothers like i do with mine? so i do feel sort of ' different' and disturbed compared to many others?

i'm in my late 40s now and that was the way i was brought up by my mother, so it's a bit late now, if that has affected me adversely..

so what can i do or what do you think?

tiltawhirl · 36-40, F

There’s nothing wrong with being close to your mother. Is it rare? Sure! But rare doesn’t mean bad. I think I have a really close relationship with my teenagers and that’s because I always hug them and tell them I love them and listen to them and hang out with them and don’t scold them for every little thing. You keep doing what you’re happy doing.