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I’m struggling with well everything right now?? And I do t feel like my husband is being very supportive... [I Pregnant]

So I’m 18 weeks pregnant and also taking care of my 1.5 yr old son. My husband works 24-36 hr shifts so it’s often just me and my toddler at home which we did perfectly fine before I got pregnant but now I’m just exhausted all the time and often don’t feel very well. I was always really good about keeping the house clean,cooking, doing well everything except working a paying job. And now I just havnt been able to keep things up like I’m used to doing which is already hard for me because I don’t like asking for help or feeling like I can’t do things myself. But my husband is constantly complaining since I’ve been unable to do everything like I used to, telling me I have to do better and step up to the plate and when he’s at work I should be working at home and he shouldn’t have to come home to dirty dishes or laundry. The main reason I do less around the house while he’s not here is because I’ve felt very dizzy the last few weeks and I fear I’ll do to much and pass out and our son will get hurt while I’m out of it cuz he doesn’t understand the concept of 911 yet. I have no close family or friends that would check up on us so literally no one would know anything is wrong until my husband gets home. I never ask him to do anything and I’m constantly cleaning up after him (probably more than I have to our child) cuz I know he works and pays the bills So I guess my question is am I really just being a baby and need to continue doing absolutely everything and tough through or is my husband being a inconsiderate jerk and if so how can I make him understand what I’m going through because we’ve had multiple conversations and he just says don’t give up on me. but hell I already do everything but make the money I can get a job and not be yelled at by a man and raise 2 kids I wouldn’t be the only woman in the world I’ve always been very independent anyways. But I really want our marriage to work it’s just so hard right now when he seems to not even try to understand what I’m going through.
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F Best Comment
I think you know you are right on this.. you know your husband should be supportive and should understand that often women who are pregnant feel ill and exhausted, especially if there is another child to take care of.. Those are just basic facts and he should understand this and step up to the plate to help!

I am also quite concerned that you are feeling dizzy - this should be checked out to make sure it's nothing serious.. I am not wishing to scare you but you must do that
Bunnydisaster77 · 26-30, F
Thank you. And it’s been worrying me too because I wasn’t dizzy like this with my first child and I’ve been trying to get on Medicaid but with all the services being closed due to COVID and it’s impossible to talk to a human on the phone apparently.. it’s been considerably hard and I guess at this point I’m just gonna have to suck it up and let the medical bills start rolling in x.x @Adaydreambeliever

Penny · 46-50, F
youre like what, 5 or 6 months pregnant with a young toddler. he needs to help out and be more understanding. you shouldnt even be handling any full laundry baskets and definitely dont be on your feet all day. youre body will not forgive you. please do stand up for yourself and if you find him unsympathetic afterwards start working towards being able to support yourself and your children or else be stuck with a lazy and uncaring jerk for as long as he wants you around. (provided he doesnt change) are you taking your vitamins and making sure to get enough rest? make sure you are eating healthy and enough too. what the baby doesnt get from your food it will take from your body.
Bunnydisaster77 · 26-30, F
Oh yeah college is like the next step in my life I hate the idea of barely being able to support my kids if something were to happen. And I do take my prenatals everyday and try to keep a good diet and avoid caffeine tho it’s so tempting and I miss my energy drinks dearly. And as far as sleep I sleep when my toddler does naps included. And he will watch our kid so I can nap if I feel really bad when he’s home. And as much as I hate doing it I will turn on cartoons and stick him in his pack and play so I can rest for an hr or so @Penny
Penny · 46-50, F
@Bunnydisaster77 just dont let yourself get stressed out. dont worry about cleaning so much. i mean yeah dishes need doing and the place needs to be sanitary especially now cause of covid but things like dusting and vacuuming could probably slide a little. maybe like get some paper plates and serve more like premade frozen stuff if you can to lighten your load?
18 months pregnant?
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@missbeez I tried to ignore it, so I could continue reading. Brain just couldn’t.
Londonn · 36-40, M
being mean to a pregnant woman? hell you don't even need to do anything in the house cuz you are carrying a living being inside you, who needs you more than anything and anyone! tell your hubby to go f h s please.
I'd see a doctor or something... no human should be pregnant for 18 months...
ozgirl512 · 26-30, F
Being 18 months pregnant will do that...
QuietEd2019 · 31-35, M
Hope things improved how are your two children?

 
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