Parents what tactics do you use to help a young teen not resent attending church?

Part of the reason my oldest daughter would rather stand than sit right now is due to how she feels church is a "waste of time" and "borning". Up till this year she loved going and liked talking with her friends but now she just feels like it's not something that connects with her. She doesn't get to not go but I wish it wasn't a battle each Sunday!

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TheSirfurryanimalWales · 61-69, M

As I just wrote on another post I rejected Catholicism at 14 and became an atheist.Your daughter is old enough to know her own mind and you should respect that.Punishing her for this is ridiculous and will be counter productive.

Kathryn05 · 41-45, F

@Pedromartinez: Congrats?

We're a religious family and that means we participate in church activities. When my daughter is older she can choose not to be a part of our family but while she is a minor her parents decide these things

TheSirfurryanimalWales · 61-69, M

@Kathryn05: you are imposing your own views on your daughter.This had been mentioned in other responses.What are you so afraid of? 14 is not a minor.If you continue with this she may well end up rejecting religion like I did.If that is what you want continue with this approach.If I had been whacked for not wanting to go to church I would have lost all respect for my parents.

Kathryn05 · 41-45, F

@Pedromartinez: 14 is most certainly a minor! And she is punished because she is behaving inappropriately

TheSirfurryanimalWales · 61-69, M

@Kathryn05: I would congratulate your daughter for trying to make you see that she does not want to follow the family religion. I hope she sticks to her guns.Answering another similar question on here right now someone has congratulated me for what I did at 14-pointing out that it took guts.Your daughter has guts.

Underconstruction · F

@Pedromartinez: Pedro, the OP is a troll with an spanking fetish. So, I am sure "she" is not even a woman but a pathetic geezer troll sitting in his parents basement somewhere. THIS IS THE FILTH THIS FREAK POSTS ABOUT "HER DAUGHTER" :

"[b][c=#BF0000]She had some small sense to be quiet and not make a scene for the rest of the service and the look my husband gave her had her thinking about what was to come I'm sure. On the way home she was sulking and pouting and talking about how not fair it is she had to listen to such boring speeches. She really hadn't learned.

The end result of this came that when she was bending over to get her butt paddled once again I told her that it seems the only thing she learns from is a sore bottom and so sore bottoms is what she gets. Later on I thought wow I just became my mom once again!

I just am praying she learns faster than I did as a girl I don't think I can survive another 3 years of this sort of attitude.[/c][/b]"

NOW YOU SEE WHY OP IS A SICK PERVERT TROLLING THIS SlTE

suzie1960 · 61-69, F

@Pedromartinez: When I was at school (in the UK), several of my classmates and I were beaten by a Religious Education teacher for daring to say we doubted the existence of her god. All she taught us was that christians are nasty, vicious creatures who will stop at nothing to indoctrinate others. Is it any wonder I now hate christians and christianity?