Infedelity

My father cheated on my mum repeatedly,he even left us with his life savings to go back to Jamaica to go and be with his childhood sweetheart we were only good enough for him when she cleaned him out.
I caught him kissing other women, watched him chase a woman down the street, he also occasionally took me to work with him and on the way home left me sat in the car whilst he went to attend to his other woman.
He was a crap dad with lots of other children and I had no respect for him and eventually my mum too, they were on/off again more than I changed my knickers. And it was a very dysfunctional upbringing.
After my father and I fought were he nearly strangled me to death and accused me of being a liar for over hearing his phone sex conversation. I decided enough was enough. I could no longer listen to his lies and watch him mess around with my mum life. I moved out and 6 years ago we stopped talking.
He's currently in hospital. I went to visit when I was told he was going to die to say goodbye but now he's recovering I refuse to go back.

My father had an affair that lasted many yrs. He fathered a child by the other woman. I had just hit 7th grade when I found out. I'm the one who told my mother. My father knew I told and focused his anger on me. I eventually went into State Foster Care for abuse to get away from him. My father never paid a dime of support for his other child. He never fostered any relationship with his son. I never lived back at home since 7th grade. I never received any kind of support from my parents. My mother stayed married to my father. My father a very mean and manipulative man. He's in his 80's now. He is deliberately cruel to everyone he meets. I maybe only see my parents every 7-8 yrs for short amounts of time. I grew up , put myself through college and obtained a good job. I'm retired now. I know my father has made my mother's life a living hell for the last 60 yrs. But ultimately she is the one who chose to stay. The rest of my siblings feel the same way I do about him.

Disappointed..

Yes, and still do

Yes of course.

Infidelity happens.
We'd all like to think it doesn't. But it does.
That means, if you're aware of it. That your folks aren't the people you always hoped they were.
And that's the biggest let-down for any child. When they realize their parents aren't what you always thought they were !
Is the cheating partner a scumbag ?
Yes. Can't argue in their favour, really.
It's wrong to cheat and they know it !
But the crime is compounded by not only cheating, but GOING BACK HOME afterwards !!!
Made all the worse if the partner takes them back knowing what they do.

Yes, I'd resent it since I love them both; but I'd take my cue from how the one who'd been cheated on chose to deal with it. Ultimately it would be between them.

Decades, actually

yeah I already hate them both to a small degree