should i tell my ex that i was pregnant?

I moved states about two months ago, and four months ago I miscarried my daughter. I had a name picked out and had already bought a little outfit and had planned out how I was gonna finish high school while raising her. I never told the father since she was conceived after we were broken up and it was just a one night stand. We've had legal issues to deal with since that night and didn't end on good terms. I've spoken to him once since I moved and it ended in an argument. He has ARF and isn't getting treatment for it so I'm not sure how much longer his life is gonna be. He's 18 and was 17 when she was conceived, I'm 16. I've been thinking about him and our daughter and that maybe he has a right to know. Should I tell him? Or should I just let things be? Please help.

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Blechy · 26-30, M

no that sounds like the most retarded thing I've ever heard of.

sashatodd · 26-30, F

thanks for being rude?? and why is that?

Blechy · 26-30, M

it's no wonder kids in school constantly get in fights. What would the point of telling him even be? Dumbest idea ever, this is why people should be much older before having sex. You honestly can't decide the answer to this question and thought you were gonna raise a kid in high school?

sashatodd · 26-30, F

@Adeft: Maybe because a part of me believes that he had a right to know that he was going to have a child? Or that he did have one and she unfortunately didn't make it full term. I do understand where you're coming from, but I also think there's sensible reason in telling him. And raising a child in high school is hard- I've seen it, my cousin did it. I know it's a lot harder doing it than watching it, but I was prepared for that. It's difficult and it takes someone responsible to get it done right, but it is doable.

Blechy · 26-30, M

Still no point in telling him since you aren't even dating for one. It'll just cause problems. Kids want to admit to everything or hide everything, there's an in between. Hide this. Forever. Maybe even kill the guy if he finds out just in case

sashatodd · 26-30, F

@Adeft: um...